Wednesday, April 13, 2011

A Curious Guy’s First Time

Ya know what. I fucked up. Only back a week and I fucked up. Ya know the poll I got over on the right? It doesn’t include an option for all the curious guys who, reading this blog, is as close as they came to guy on guy sex. So here’s my way of making it up to them. In the comments of this post I want to hear from the curious guys who haven’t had sex but have had erotic situations happen to them. Or tell me what your fantasy is about having sex with a guy for the first time. I wanna hear about it and I’m pretty freakin sure the gay guys who read this are gonna get a big ol chubby hearing about it lol. So have at it guys. Nothing’s too tame or wild. How close have you come, and what would you want to do?

33 comments:

  1. The first time I fantasized about men was when I was about 11. It was my older sisters boyfriend. They would take me swimming and he and I would use the men's locker room. He was the first man I ever saw naked and he had a beautiful body and little inhibition. I don't think I thought about him sexually. It was more like I fantasized about him being my brother. My very, very, very close brother! The only thing I've done with men is jerk off. I liked it but would like to try more eventually.

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  2. This blog is as close as I come to sex with a guy. My fantasy is actaully to have a guy force himself on me, even tie me down. From what I've read it's becuase it makes it easier to rationalize by being a non participatory act, but rather something that was done to you. Always wondered if that's true or if I'm just totally screwed up.

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  3. I've had gay situations that could have turned into sex but didn't. When I was in high school my best friend's parents were away and my friend and I lined up 2 girls to come over one night. We spent the day getting ready for them, buying beer, cleaning the hot tub, even got the right music. Early in the afternoon one called and said they had to go out to dinner with her parents and they wouldn't be over till around 11 pm. When my friend told me we were both pissed. We were hanging by his pool in our bathing suits, and he said "fuck it I can't wait that long" and he pulled off his suit and started jerking off. I wasn't sure if I was supposed to join him or what. By the time I got the nerve to take off my suit he started cumming so I never took my suit off.

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  4. my fantasy has always been to JO with a neighboor in his garage. prob weak but hey that's me HA!

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  5. I never got into a "situation" with a guy. My fantasy is to get close to a quite muscular guy. Getting near him. Smell him. Feel him. Approaching from the back. I like necks - for some reason. And then, start touching him, feel the muscles and the power, strength and protection they generate. Getting hugged. Getting appreciated. Likewise. Then get comfy on a couch/bed. And stroking. No kissing, no rimming, no anal sex. Simply masturbating each other. Getting him to come. Let him scream of pleasure. And cuddle. And that's it. Feel, for once, protected - somebody taking care of you, not just in bed. For a while.
    And then back to normal life.
    Am I asking for too much?

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  6. Hi Guys,
    I'm no brain, but I can assure you, you are not screwed up. I have come to learn that we all think some wonderful thoughts. 6.03pm You are not asking too much. Not at all. I remember the first guy that I saw nude. He was a navy guy, friend of my cousins boyfriend. He was from the mid-west. I was a kid. He was tall, lean and blond. I sat across from him when we went to the locker room after swimming. I saw him take his trunks off. He was standing and drying himself, as were many others, but he was across from me. He put that towel to his crotch and balls and was gentle with himself. He sat down and continued to dry himself. I was a kid, but I knew that I had some feelings going on inside of me. I think that I too would have liked him as a brother. The feeling was nice.
    For the guy to be tied down. When I was 13 a 16 year old showed me how to do it. We played for many years. Both of us served in the military and still played after that. He has a couple of kids now.

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  7. I have been sexually excited by men since I was around 13. It didnt really start out as wanting to have any contact with them but I wanted to be them. I was jealous of their bodies etc. Throughout high school I still just wanted to be near guys but unfortunately didn't connect to many. Only had one really good guy friend after the age of 14. In my early 20's I really started thinking about doing something with a guy. Now the site of a cock and thinking about sucking it really got me going. So I'd jack off thinking about sex with men. The thing I never understood and still don't is why when I'm so horny all I want is to suck a cock or be fucked, but as soon as I come those are the last things it seems I want to do. It's so conflicting. I have now in my 28 years given a blow job to two guys I met on CL. Both times I sucked him off first because of the whole loosing interest after I cum thing. The thrill of a guy sucking my cock is too much and I bust super quick. And the only thing I want to do is get the fuck out of there. Both those occasions were about 4 years apart. But I always seem to nervous to do it again. Any thoughts on this?

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  8. My first gay encounter was with a guy who i had been checking out for about 1 year. We weren't best friends, just people we could talk to have a chat with, we might be at the same party or place. We both would look at each other, and talk about things that we wouldn't ever say to anyone else; it was our own kind of private talk, like dirty private. And these things we talked about were about gay interests, curiousities: there was never any coming out of being gay (this guy claims to be a christian). Then there was one night, where we were at the same place and it was just us 2 with a few mates, we would look and stare at each other, until we took off and walked around. And we joked about us being in a relationship, this night being our first date etc etc....until we both sat down, fondling eachother and then nervously/wrecklessy kissing each other...

    It was my first encounter and it was pretty hot for me. Who knew it would get to that.

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  9. Great blog, bud. Really glad you are back. You've provide me with many hours of pleasure and the least I can do is add to the responses. I've been so close several times and sensed something could happen if I made a move.I don't trust my radar and I just can't get myself to do it. It would take just a small amount of assertiveness from the other guy and I'd cave in a heartbeat. I'm sure there are more guys like me out there.

    There was a guy I saw at the gym a lot. He was about 5'8", a little facial scruff, great shape, totally fit in a wrestler kind of way. We had multiple extended glances at each other but I sensed he was as hesitant as I was to make a move. The first time I saw him nude was in the shower at the gym. I stepped in with my "grower' totally soft and in it's candle nub state and there were four other guys in the gym all with huge, hanging cocks. It was surreal -- like a porn movie. I was so embarrassed, I did not stay in long, but managed to see my 5'8" crush had a huge dick (and the most perfect ass I've ever seen). I was even more in lust. I dressed and was out of the locker room before he finished, but waited in the lobby and followed him out the door. He looked back a couple of times, but just kept going. Had he made the slightest move, I would have had his cock in my mouth. Only saw him a few times after that, then I moved. Still j/o thinking about him.

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  10. How terrific .. this may go to a thousand posts! For utcrewguy (hmm, wonder if that stands for Texas rowing; rowers here in WA are so hot they make my knees ..) anyway, going totally un-gay after cumming: completely common. Happens to me and I'm about a 99.8. Rick SEA

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  11. In response to what anonymous said at 14/04/11 1.30AM

    ***I've been so close several times and sensed something could happen if I made a move.I don't trust my radar and I just can't get myself to do it. It would take just a small amount of assertiveness from the other guy and I'd cave in a heartbeat. I'm sure there are more guys like me out there.***

    I am a guy like you...been so close, I sense something happening...but I can't bring myself to do it. I even have a straight friend who can see something happening, (only problem is he claims to be a christian, which I explained in the comment before yours) and something has happened between us, but i think we maybe too scared...I too would cave in a heartbeat!!!!!! :)

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  12. I've been curious all my life. I'm 30 and happily married but the curiosity doesn't go away. This blog has probably saved me thousands in therapy expenses.

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  13. I think I was about 14. Sleeping in a tent with my friend in his back yard. Got cold as hell so he climbed into my sleeping bag because it was warmer. We were both in underpants. After about 10 minutes I thought I felt his hardon pressing up against me but I wasn't sure. A few minutes later it was growing and now I was sure it was his dick. I didn't know if I was supposed to do anything. Didn't want to be labeled a "fag". So I didn't do anything. Don't think I slept at all that night.

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  14. For utcrewguy 12.55a.m
    First. You don't have a steady partner. If you did, once you pleased one another you would probably relax together. 2. I would say, all guys, when them cum, they go on to something else. It's done. When you came, you have exercised your fantasy. That's it. You'll agree, that the next day you will start getting horny again, maybe sooner. Also, with all guys once you shoot that load, you are done, and you want to move on. That happens with most guys. Wives complain that when there husbands are done, they roll over and fall asleep.
    When you are being done and you cum quickly, consider it over. That too, happens to most guys. If the person who was doing you, continued to do you and brought you to a second erection, that would blow your mind when you started to cum again. I would also think that when you come quickly, that you have been horny for quite a while. There is also a difference between being just physically connected and being physically and psychologically connected. Any guy who wants a hooker, pays her, he gets off and gets out. Same thing when you meet some guy for sex and it's a sexual release. You cum, you go. Both have been pleased and exit, but again, if you two have something going with knowing one another, talking and liking and thinking about and meeting, there's that emotional connection. That, my good man, makes for a much better sexual experience. Hopefully, you will find someone on a steady basis. Hope this helps.
    We have all been there, one way or another.
    bj

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  15. utcrewguy 12.55a.m
    Just wanted to add, I think that we all get nervous until we are comfortable with the person that we meet. Personally, I would like to have someone in my life. I don't play around. I am very happy with one person. Maybe it would be a good idea, if you told the person that you are with, that you are nervous, and also tell that person that you are a quick cummer. He'll take it easy and do other things to please you. Like priming the person. You have probably read the other comments from other guys and see how they feel and how uneasy can be. Just thought that I would add this. Hope it helps. There is one thing that I do know, you can learn something from this blog every day.
    Loki mentioned something the other day about the emotional connections. Once that starts to happen, then the relationship gets a foundation and a commitment. That can be a problem for bi guys, they get caught between a rock and a hard place.
    The other day, I saw a very good movie on LOGO, it's called, The Heights. Excellent movie. Glenn Close is in it and she it good. The characters all come together. It's all about human nature.
    bj.
    p.s. One should not have to feel guilty after experiencing pleasure.

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  16. Well, I suppose I should chime in here, since I've gotten way past 'curious.' Many of you have made the statement: "I'm sure there are others out there like me." or something to that effect. Dead fuckin' on! Millions, in fact.
    It's not wierd, not screwed up, it's not wrong.
    Some have asked how to take that final step. My suggestion is to see if there is a Jack-off Group in your area. You'd be amazed at how many married, straight, guys attend these things because they have those same feelings and urges you all mention. Or, hit the local gay bathhouse - also filled with 'curious' guys who are there to fullfill that urge to touch and fondle, or maybe suck another guy's cock; to get off and leave.
    That is another "positive" about either the jack-off groups or the bathhouses: The guys all expect that once you've blown your load, you're finished and ready to leave; there won't be any hurt feelings, no great disappointment expressed or any hidden agendas; everyone is there for the same purpose.
    Of course you're nervous and afraid, of course you're indecisive. If you think about it - honestly - you had those same reactions the first time you tried to get into some girls pants! That wasn't easy either. It was fraught with nervousness, fear of rejection, and all those other emotions that run through us when we first attempt to connect with a fellow human being on a sexual level.
    Unfortunately, there is a stigma attached to M/M sex which is slowly eroding, thank God, and the lines between the labels "gay" and "straight" have blurred. I've personally adopted "bi." But the real truth of it is this: We humans run the full gamut of sexuality. The more the lines blur, the sooner we dispose of labels, the better off we'll be; the freer we will all be to express (rather than suppress) the sexual desires we have.

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  17. I'm happily married for decades, and have been turned on by guys since teens or 20's. In my late 40's I got some courage to go to gay bars out of town, and even a "spa" where I got a blow job. I have hooked up with a couple guys and only played orally, and enjoyed every minute of it. Actually trying to find a guy...bigger with muscles who will fuck me and teach me to fuck him too...I think this will happen in the next year or so. Thank God women were not as picky as men with "dating."

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  18. Wow, the photo looks like a trainer at my Gym...now I will think that is him naked. Since you can't tell from the photo, the real one has a cute butt, and caring personality.

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  19. Wow! Awesome posts, all.

    My experience is pretty limited. Mutual jacking and receiving oral, having my balls sucked and being jacked. I have had two guys sucking me a couple of times too, so that is pretty hot. All encounters have taken place at my gym in the steam room or sauna. What most surprised me was how not guilty I felt. I always thought if I crossed the line, I would be crushed and ground down by the guilt.

    Most of the guys I have played with have been married and identify as straight. I also gravitate towards older guys since I feel like their maturity reduces the possibility of drama. They are there to get off too so no hurt feelings, like Whkattk said.

    I went to my gym for years before anything happened. Then about two years ago,a retired guy hit on on me...scared the shit out of me. I did not go back for three months, LOL.

    In the intervening time, I went on a cruise vacation and crossed "the line" by doing some mutual jacking with a twenty something passenger and some of the crew members in the sauna at the spa. That was really eye opening for me because I realized there were signs and a protocol that was followed to show mutual interest. When I did go back to my gym, I was amazed at how obvious the signals all seemed. I think bi-sexuality is the norm and exclusively hetero or homo are the exceptions.

    Needless to say, I am much wiser than I was a few years back and the retied guy who hit on me is now a good friend.
    Celt

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  20. So 11:31 4-14...what are those signs so if I see them in the Gym shower I can respond correctly?

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  21. The comments on this post are amazing. Thanks guys for your insights and honesty. I agree with whkatka. We are sexual beings and labels and bounderies are created and learned, not something we are born with. We are born sexual. Taboos and societal restraints keep us from realizing our sexual potential. I was a very precocious kid. Loved to fool around and got shamed at a very early age. My teenage cousin came to live with us when I was around eight and he was 18. He would mow the lawn and take off his t shirt. Had a great body and I remember admiring his muscles. Saw him naked a few times and wanted to be him and wanted him to hold me. My first sexual experience was with a friend in Junior High. We got naked in bed when he spent the night and rubbed our hard cocks together. We took turns being the top. Never came and slept naked. In the morning we went to the bathroom in robes and my mother mentioned that it looked like we were naked under the robes. We were both really embarassed.

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  22. Aonon at 12:32 4/14:

    Ah, this signs....first off, you and the other(s) must maintain "plausible deniability" Wear a towel or keep some shorts handy if you do go all naked. If you walk in on a situation, let the guys know you are cool with it. Offer to be a lookout. They may just keep playing in front of you.

    If there is only one guy and he is interested, he may be "chatty" and reference some stuff that could be taken two ways. He might also sit with his legs open showing off his junk. Even better if he shows a semi. Watch how his towel drapes. Can you see his dick but might it also look like he doesn't "know" you can see it? Does he seem to adjust his junk a lot? Does he seem to look at your dick? Just spend some time observing. That is the best teacher.

    As a rule of thumb, if you get at least three of these signs in combination, it may be time for you to employ the same signs in reply. The other guy will eventually fluff up and perhaps even start stroking.

    Do not under any circumstances make the first move. Do not touch your hard dick before he has touched his own hard dick. Always remember, plausible deniability is your friend.

    But honestly, the "pre-game" here can be as much fun as the main-event. It is a seduction of sorts and that can be enough in and of itself.
    Celt

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  23. I am going to repeat myself, but it is worth it. You can learn something from this blog every time you read it. For all of you have replied and for all of you who have read what is here, keep it going. We are all similar. We are human. We are men. We have desires and we are worth it. Pleasure is beautiful. I believe that it makes us a better person and a better society.
    Be safe,
    bj.

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  24. never even got close to a first time. am too dumb to read any signals. a co-worker, we're both married, socialized out of work, caught him a few times staring at me (or so I think), flexing muscles, showing guns, winking, not mischievously, but winking like we both know something, when having conversations. very open and honest conversations, a genuinely good guy, one drunken evening, have stayed at his place to spend the night, slept on the same bed i (in reverse position though, we're both too conscious about the label thing, I guess), in our undies but with shirts on. nothing happened.

    tapper

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  25. I'll keep it short--Thanks to all posters

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  26. oboy, tapper. I predict this blog is about to take up your case in earnest. Rick SEA

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  27. Although I consider myself straight, there is a guy at work who is so rediculously good looking he could make lesbians damp and straight guys hard. He is mid 20's, short dark hair, over 6 foot and ripped with muscles its just insane. I find myself thinking about him a lot which is new territory for me as i have never been with a guy before and just recently he has become part of my spank bank. I know he is very straight and he has slept with quite a few girls at work (he just snaps his fingers and they come running) but i am trying to pick up if there are any signals but i'm really bad at it. I know he craves women but i also know he likes to wrestle with his house mates shirtless when he gets home drunk sometimes (all guys). My fantasy (that has made it to my spank bank) would be to wrestle him and tear clothes off and try to make your opponent cum and the winner gets head from the loser (full on I know). Since these feelings are all so new and it has come as a bit if a shock to myself i was wondering this question. Could this guy be bi or is drunk wrestling with mates just something blokes do and it is completely non-sexual? Because i would really like this guy to be my first time.

    Ben

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  28. tapper, ben: tell us more!!

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  29. @Ben

    does he get a hardon when he's wrestling with them? --stupid question I know lol

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  30. I'm a "late bloomer", I guess. I had the high school buddy..we jacked, jacked each other and even got to sucking. For many years, I just had the "hankering" to be with a guy and when I was 60, yes 60!, I met a guy online, we were both married. Long story short, I met him we went to his house (wife was working) and I went wild, kissing, fondling, sucking (no anal the first time). He said "I thought you didn't have any experience to which I responded "You have just seen many years of what I'd like to do with a guy come true". I was a wonderful experience and I still see him from time to time 12 years later!

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  31. Anon april 18 1:31am

    Actually i don't know if he gets a hard on when wrestling as i have never been there when he has wrestled his house mates. But if i ever get to wrestle him there will definitely be the subtle forearm between the legs to check LOL...i am trying to go out drinking with him and find an excuse to stay over at his place. Then i will start the wrestle session myself. I will keep you posted

    Ben

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  32. My fantasy is that I could just walk in the locker room at my high school and just see a hot guy wearing only tight pants , no shirt muscular chest , abs and I could walk up behind him and put my arms around him and feel his chest and his a** up against my D*** and I feel him get hard and he take my shirt off and I go down to my knees and give him a Bj and he give me a Blowjob and we start to get instant and just have the time of our lives !

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  33. Just stumbled on this blog. Been awhile since anyone posted, anyone still out there?

    I've had similar feelings to you all for about 3-4 years now. I recently had a pretty wild experience. I was seeing a girl on the side of things and she recently got a new boyfriend that was open to some fun. We ended up having a couple of MMF threesomes that centered on our girl. One session though ended up with him sucking me and then I sucked him mutually with our girl. That was as far as it went, but I couldn't stop thinking about it and can't tell you how much I want to feel a hard cock explode in my mouth. Anyway, I hope to start up some conversations here again.
    DH

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