Monday, May 23, 2011

What Feels Different?

Ok so I was talking to a reader who is sorta in the same boat as me. Sorta like the finger-in-the-butt sensation during JO sometimes but not sure about having someone else do it and and definitely not ready for the big one to go up there. And you guys probably read my latest sexcapade where a guy put a couple fingers up my ass and I definitely didn’t like it. But another reader tells me that he doesn’t like taking a finger up the ass but he loves a dick slid up there.
OK SO NOW I’M COMPLETELY LOST!!!!!
Why is it my finger feels good in my butt but someone else’s hurts? And how could a dick feel good in there but a finger hurt? And what’s with this new fascination I have with the male ass?

38 comments:

  1. I don't know Scott... All I can say is that I'm way more comfortable with a dick in my vag than a guy's finger. I mean, I can get into fingering if I know and trust the guy, but I wouldn't let a stranger put his finger in me - even though I'm totally cool with a stranger's dick in me.

    But yeah, I think because a finger is skinnier there's more room for movement in a way you might not like - a dick is nice and snug, it can pretty much only slide up and down, while a finger can go wandering about, all skinny and poky. Yeah, that's it - fingers are so much more... poky and prehensile than dicks. Also they have fingernails on them. *shudder* Also it kind of reminds me of a med exam.

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  2. First of all, great pic. Second, my guess is you will be eating a salad within a month and I really, really, really hope you give us all the details because there's something about bi-curious men eating ass for the first time that turns me completely on!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  3. from my experience...when you do it yourself, you have control, you know what's going on and your mind limits the fear and goes with the pleasure. But when it comes to finger vs cock...the finger is hard, rigid in a bonier way, if that makes sense.

    With the cock, even at its hardest, there is some give and the tissue is just more comfortable...now this coming from someone that has bottomed for only one guy in 23 years...and only 4 times for him.

    It is really the mind over matter...it'll hurt like hell, it'll feel like you need to take a dump, it'll take your breath away...but when you let go of all that, and you connect with that guy and see it in his eyes...there is nothing better.

    Most of all...be safe. I'm about to ride a bike in the upcoming AIDS LIfeCycle, traveling 545 miles over 7 days from SF to LA...to raise money in the fight against HIV and AIDS. So I'd me remiss not to mention it...get tested, be honest and wrap that fucker up!

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  4. A man's ass is a beautiful thing. Please explore. You're ready and I'm quite certain that if you're honest with yourself you'll realise you want it.

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  5. naked str8boy ass. aaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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  6. I'd work my way right down the line, "butt" spend most of my time with beefy boy (second to the end on the right)!

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  7. I do think that you are looking to explore an ass, be it your own or someone else's You have been fingered. You have been rimmed, now it is time to proceed and explore what the rest of the world has done.
    A cock is 98.6 degrees and throbbing, a finger, cold and bony, but for some, it works, but there is NO replacement for the real thing, a hot, hard throbbing boner!

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  8. I think "some chick" has it right. My only addition is skinny dicks can be more painful in the ass than thick long dicks. Happy Monday all and glad we survived the rapture.

    MattB

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  9. I've rimmed 3 married guys. All have had the exact same reaction. Shock, followed by disbelief, followed by body thrashing all over the bed, followed by euphoria. I think straight men are amazed that they've missed the boat on receiving this type of pleasure all their lives.
    BTW, 2 of the 3 asked me to fuck them the next time I was with them.

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  10. It's all about control and trust. Once you have the trust, doesn't matter what is used. If you don't get the trust, you can always learn to control Little Scotty, Jr so that Little Scotty is not getting all the pleasure.

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  11. I've had similar experiences to Anonymous 9:27. Married men think it's all about getting head from a gay guy. When you help them discover their ass you can pretty much do whatever you want to them. I had one guy (mid 30s, construction worker) actually start crying when I rimmed him.

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  12. Scott,

    It's been said, but trust is key. I feel bad for you, because you do not have someone to explore with that you trust and can push surther with each time. (Any volunteers to help Scott oyt?)

    I don't know what it is, but I hated it for years and then one day I loved it and it changed my life.

    Fingers can feel great too though, with the right guy pushing the right buttons and TRUST.

    Big G in TX

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  13. I suspect you aren't feeling the same sensation for the same reason as you can't tickle yourself. During a doctor physical, while he was doing that "thump" exam on my abdomen, I felt ticklish. He told me to put my hand on his while he did it, and voila, no more tickles. I also suspect you haven't reached that age when the second "male exam" happens, the first being, "turn your head and cough."

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  14. Hi Scott,
    I think that when you put your finger there, your taking to do it, you were surprised when the guy did that to you so you were not propared and didn't relax and it got worse when he put the second one. the difference between a finger and a dick is that the finger is full of bones so it can hurt more if it not doing properly and a dick is like a sponge so it's soft and more pleasurable. And for the ass thing, only you knows about that my friend.

    Yves

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  15. All I know is, I fingered a 6ft2" 27 yr old handsome, handsome guy who is 7" plus, and he enjoyed every moaning minute of it. Must add, I enjoyed the softness of his inside. It was beautiful to explore. He also came like the hammers of hell. Man, did he cum.

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  16. Scott my boy you need to find yourself a top, let him tie you down so you CANNONT back out, and let him show you the way. Let your inner slut come through!

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  17. While I agree with Some Chick in principle you can't make an absolute comparison between your bottom and a woman's vagina. They ain't the same.
    As a woman who has been on the receiving end & the giving (sans penis, of course)you first need to really want to try it, second, be VERY relaxed and third, trust the person you're with. Otherwise, it hurts like a son of a bitch.
    Most of these guys could be considered afficionados...notthe novice you e. Not saying don't try but you need to understand your basic anatomy , otherwise you're going to be very dissatisfied and your partner's feelings might get hurt.

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  18. Oh, I forgot. Don't let anyone try to tell you that, under ideal circumstances, it is going to be easier to take even a small penis compared to a finger. Unless maybe that finger has dragon lady nails. I don't buy it.

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  19. Scott I think maybe u need 2 try rimming & fucking, an ass b/4 u get fucked. I think we're all fascinated with ass man, I mean really easy 2 understand why ur so curious. I'm not at all experienced bottoming, but I think I understand it. I totally recommend topping first. Maybe it would help u understand more.

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  20. O.K Scott first things first, love these kind of pics, not actually sure why, but maybe it's just because it's dudes just horsing around have fun...and most likely won't go any further.

    Now, you can control your finger, where someone else might not be as gentle or not touch you right where you want to be touched (your pleasure button)...lol...

    If I am in the mood to get banged I really don't like fingers to loosen me up, I like lots of lube, and gently have the cocked slide in, once in he can bang away, and then I have most of the noises you put in your poll today...

    I recently bought a "toy" (buttplug)it is the kind that has a suction bottom, and you don't have to worry at all, that is going to be sucked up by your ass, only 4" long, looks and feels like a real cock, and 4" is right up "my alley" when getting fucked...I know buying a toy might be hard for you because your married, but if you go away on business you might give it a try...GOOD LUCk

    SJ

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  21. Typical str8 guy. Wants to try butt play but doesn't know why and is too afraid of being deflowered to try it. Grow up, grow some balls, and let a gay man take you where you want to go but can't go with the little lady. You like sucking cock right? That didn't kill you. Now drop your pants and lets have a look at you!

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  22. Look at your fingers closely guys. Fingernails that are hard and with edges that scrape. Cuticles that can scrape, callouses, knuckles, bone.....

    That tissue inside is tender and easily irritated. What feels good working on your back (scratching with your fingernails, bony fingers pushing into tissue to loosen it up, etc)won't feel so great inside your hole.

    The only time I want fingers in me is if he's pushing lube in my ass, preparing it for his cock. Otherwise I want to be riding his cock. And yes....average size to large cock is better than small and slender in my book.

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  23. For 9.52a.m
    I sure would like to know more about that experience with the mid30's construction worker. Can u give some details as to when he got carried away and why? Sounds strange for someone to cry when being rimmed, but wonderful, too. Did he come back for more at another time. Where did you meet him? Sounds like it was his first time.
    Thanks.
    bj.
    p.s. You can learn something new every day on this blog.

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  24. well the nails, the texture of the finger prints, the bones and joints, their are a large differences between the two

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  25. Great post. Book yourself an erotic massage. (eg Masseurfinder). With a hunky masseur who includes a prostate massage.
    Bi Aussie guy.

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  26. http://zaetc.tumblr.com/post/4000067384/masturbation-tutorial-many-of-us-like-to-prostate
    lol this might help too

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  27. Well, I think these comments just about nails it. (Yuk. Sorry.)

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  28. Don't you point a finger in, oops, at me, hey might as well join the crowd....

    and yes I to, want beefy butt boy 2nd from the right, I do like my men beefy... hell man should have some meat on their bones.....

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  29. the little ones are for sucking, the big ones are for fucking.

    - Tennessee Tom

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  30. This is really quite simple Scott. Anyone can get a manicure and be gentle even with the boniest finger. That isn't it.

    Anyone can poke a toy up a pooper and feel what its like to be filled. That ain't it either.

    Anyone can finger themselves to oblivion and feel like "what's so special 'bout this" but that is not the point either.

    You can stick your dick in a thousand mouths and jack off to all the gay porn in God's kingdom but taking a dick up your ass turns a corner on who you are, who you think you are and who you expect yourself to be in one hour.

    Your challenge is mental, not physical. Fucking is an extremely intimate act and yes trust is crucial. You have a wife. You have kids. You are a closeted bi curious man and you stand to lose massive credibility.

    You may fuck a man and be fucked by a man but you are not going to enjoy either until you resolve your inner personal conflicts and understand who and what you are for those you love.

    Serious shit - fucking - that is unless you are a gay boy who like the company of other men with NSA. You got big strings Scott. I think you got a better chance of getting your wife to strap one on and poke you than any other guy you might meet online. If you can't bring yourself to ask her to help you explore your need then you got no business asking another man to do your exploring.

    You need a business trip. You need to hire a professional and pay cash. You need to be honest about exactly why you are there and what you are hiring and then lay out your ground rules. That is the only NSA that is going to work for you. Plenty of porn stars escort. Do not bareback and then you go home understanding what it is you are fantasizing about. My guess is once the mystery is gone you will not be much interested in ass play except for the occasional tongue warm up to a blow job. If you like it and you might, my guess is the wife gets a strap on and you might be surprised at the thrill she gets from dominating your ass in that way. She might like it. Understand what you are getting into either way.

    Penetrating your ass is a game changer going forward. Doesn't really matter if it is a man or a woman. It means you are capable of being submissive. My guess is that is a little scary for you. No disrespect.

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  31. Remember this, Scott. A man's ass is just that, man-ass and is not a substitute, stand-in, alternative or any other thing you can come up with, for pussy. WHOLE 'nother ballgame. Be sure and approach it that way. Rick SEA

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  32. BJ,
    Curious married guy came over from an ad on CL. E-mails made it clear he was there for a blow job. Upon seeing him I wanted more but his body language told me he was very nervous. He agreed to a massage to relax. I moved my fingers toward his rosebud but he flinched and told me he didn't want anything going in him. After a few minutes of my fingers running around his anus he began to moan so I took a chance and ran my tongue over his hole. He jumped but settled back in and I went to work with my tongue. By the time I was done all the covers on my bed were dissheveled from his thrashing. He rolled over and I could hear him wimpering and see him sweating. I finished him off with the bj he wanted. He asked me if he could come back. That was about a month ago but haven't heard back from him yet.

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  33. Now getting rimmed is another story, there are not to many feelings in the world that can top a wet tongue swirling around the "rosebud"..

    It's interesting that no-no's that dudes are reluctant to receive (rimming and sucking toes) but If you do manage to do it most go cross-eyed and see fireworks, and usually will leave a sticky mess on your clean white sheets...

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  34. anonymous 7.29.
    Thanks.
    I think that the more str/bi guys get serviced, the more they realize the pleasures that they have missed in life.
    I'm certain that he thinks of the experience and will want a repeat.
    bj

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  35. Thanks BJ. I hope so. He didn't have a very big dick but he shot a wonderful load and had an ass that was to die for. And I'm a sucker for a beautiful ass.

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  36. ah, yes, the male ass, a sight to behold, anyway they come, bubble, beefy, hairy, smoothie, little bounce to the cheeks when the dude walks to his locker, oh yeah, have to love the male butt... I DO......

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  37. Honestly, it's the comfort level. At first, taking it up the ass can be pretty painful (whether finger or cock). The more comfortable you become with it, the easier (and more pleasurable) it becomes. As far as "Why does my finger feel good, but someone else's hurts?" I think that is similar to the whole "you can't tickle yourself" thing. There is a perfect feedback loop from your brain to your hand to your butt that simply doesn't exist when someone else is involved. You're comfortable with yourself. You trust yourself. That isn't always the case with another person, and so you are naturally more tense, because your body wants to be prepared for something unexpected. Does that make sense?

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