Friday, May 27, 2011

When Does It Go From Fantasy to Fetish

I used to think I have a spanking fetish. I know it’s fucked up but I always wanted to be taken over a knee and spanked. Bare ass.  Hard.  I got lucky and had my fantasy filled. And ya I liked it. But do I have a burning desire for it to happen again? Not really.  So maybe it’s not a fetish. Maybe I just had a wild fantasy. So what happens if I scratch everything off my gay boy bucketlist? Do I just call it a day and move on to coin collecting? 

26 comments:

  1. Hopefully, unless you want to live your life on the DL sneaking around and hoping your family doesn't find out.

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  2. perhaps. i think there are several things going on. you're on a personal journey of self discovery and what's more you're allowing us to travel along with you on that journey. i told you the first time we chatted, i have enormous respect for you for exploring who and what you are. part of that is to discover different aspects of your sexuality. fortunately, i think we've all learned not to allow ourselves or anyone else to pigeon hole us in a box w/ a label.
    another aspect deals with scott as a juvenile delinquent. you're taking risks, having adventures that many of us had when we were younger. for the most part, you've been appropriately cautious as you tested your limits.
    at some point, you'll know when you've discovered enough. hopefully, you'll be a more mature individual w/ a clearer understanding of his sexuality. that's no mean accomplishment. you have also helped a lot of guys struggling w/ similar questions if in no other way than letting them know they're not alone. good luck, god speed and thank you for the many amusing stories and refreshingly honest insights.
    have a wonderful holiday with your family and friends.
    pax tibi frater!

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  3. I had a six month "relationship" with a married guy who would come over once a week for a blow job. His wife just wouldn't so I did. We both got out of it what we wanted. Anyhoo one day he told me he had a fantasy of having the "tables turned" on him so he'd be my cocksucker. He was quite surprised when he walked in and saw 2 of my friends there! We tied his hands behind his back and for the next hour he sucked all three of our dicks. He later told me that scene wasn't for him but he loved the opportunity to try it.

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  4. Having formerly lived a "sr8" life and then switched teams ... I found that our culture had very cleverly installed barriers and walls in me toward different aspects of man sex. I had an aversion to kissing, ass sex, sucking etc. With time those barriers have come down. But often it took experimenting more than once but trying two or three times I found I loved it. So I would recommend experimenting more than once. I agree with rugbysex, I commend you for your experimentation and your journey. I would just say loosen up and experiment more. So I say scratch everything off your man sex list three times. Enjoy the journey!

    Benchpecs

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  5. Scotty, What about erotic wrestling? OR electro?

    Benchpecs

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  6. I hope at some point in this adventure you can finally say, "Been there, done that", as opposed to, "OMG, what have I done?"

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  7. benchpecs if i did everyting on my list 3 times id have 2 stop blogging, quit my job, and make sex a full time job lol

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  8. YES, maybe not coin collecting, but something different.

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  9. NO, next you move on to getting a spanking in front of others.

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  10. I agree with Rugby and Benchpecs. I would continue to follow that urge, but be careful. I hope that you find someone as a steady. Somewhere down the road, someone will click with you. I know it may seem kinda risky to have a steady guy. He will know more about you than you may like, but it is also safer. If you should find someone, the odds are there will be an emotional connection. That, may not be what you want, but it can happen. I guess we all follow the urge when the hormones demand it.
    I have learned that there are some guys who like certain things. Some guys just roam and roam. I don't want someone who goes from one to the other. I am pretty much a home body. If I were lucky enough to find someone, I would be grateful. I am not a bar person, or cruiser in the park at night. I've seen some things advertised on cl, that I would not want to do. I probably lead a very boring life.
    Maybe, after you were spanked you realized that you didn't need to be punished for your feelings, which by the way, those sexual feelings are normal. You may live the rest of your life on the dl, but those feelings are not going to go away. It is possible to have the best of two worlds.
    I think that we are all waiting for the day, that you post and let us know, that someone pushed all of the right buttons!!! You will be on cloud 9 and we will be there with you.
    Good Luck.
    Be safe, that's most important, be safe.
    BJ.
    p.s. I know one thing. I will never forget your journey with th cock ring. I laughed so hard that I could not see the print on the pc. The tears of laughter running down my face blurred the print. Till this day, it makes me laugh and smile. Being that you survived that trip downstairs to put on that outfit and be fitted, you can survive anything!!!!!!!!
    One day, you will write a book about your sexual journey and your fantasies!!! Fantasies, are good.

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  11. Jon (a Canadian)May 27, 2011 at 8:52 AM

    My impression is that you haven't given up on sex with the wifey, so why would you give up on the fantasy world of gay sex. There will always be something calling to you from your fertile sexual fantasy life.

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  12. Scott,
    Make sure you are living out your fantasy and not someone else's. Get it out of your system, enjoy the banter and be glad you've learned something about yourself and put some misconceptions to rest about yourself and other people. Just don't take it too far. You stand to lose more than you gain

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  13. thx guys. a couple things here. #1 I'm not gonna go freakin wild and start doing stuff all over the place. 4 a ton of reasons i dont do much. when the opporutniyt is there i take it.

    i also got a lot of comments about finding a stead guy 2 do things with. so 1 more time - THATS NOT GONNA HAPPEN. i dont want it to. im married. i dont want some freakin relationship with a man. when i was a kid i like the thrill of dating. when i got old i liked a womans reaction when i took my pants off. now its same thing with a guy. no relatiohsp. no dating. just freakin animal sex.

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  14. i'm not talking about a boyfriend. i assume you have a pal or two you like to "drink" with. u share the same interests, same jokes, drink about the same amount. that sorta thing. i hope you meet someone someday, who can be a fuck buddy (even if no fucking is involved). someone you think is hot,shares ur same sense of humor, approaches sex the same way you would like to. someone you can be comfortable with, someone you can trust. poker buddies....literally...LMAO. then you can concentrate on the sex. trying things, develop a playfulness, where hang ups are hung up at the door. a playmate. i've always had 3-4 fuck buddies...never got boring and even more than HOT, it was just a helluva lot of fun. enuf said.
    prosit!

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  15. Fantasies are wonderful but sometimes they're better left at just that. I always had a fantasy of being tied up naked and being used by several men. My fantasy came true at a club in the city and while there were incredible moments, there were also things I didn't plan on, like the guy who shoved his dirty underware in my mouth while he fucked me. Hot to some but not to me.

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  16. Scott....that pic is awsome. The animal sex is def where its at bro! Have a sick weekend bro!

    Ltr- Jake

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  17. First of all Scott, how the hell did you take that pic of me at "my gym", my gym is scared ground, you stay out, unless you want to play...lol....

    Don't worry young man you will always remain a "curious straight dude", and though you might fight it at times, there will always be something that you might want to keep doing or new things to explore....

    So even if you did like coin collecting, you will still have an occasional roaming eye for the male body, especially our butts...

    SJ

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  18. Scott,
    Rugby, has the right idea, 3 or 4 fuck buddies. Works fine. You'll be safer that way.
    Enjoy.
    bj

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  19. I think Scott is being pretty clear here, and he really shouldn't have to keep repeating it. Nothing remotely close to the gay white picket fence is EVAH going to happen. Rick SEA

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  20. I have my sound on, and this site is being attacked like crazy with that tat-a-tat of pop-ups being fought off.

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  21. Like the pic Scotty. But in your last blog, weren't you going to give away or auction off one of your straps?

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  22. Scott,
    Gotta tell ya guy, you got me turned on. I really liked what you said, "When I took my pants off, I liked the woman reaction. Now, you have the same thing with a guy." Man, must say, that turned me on big time. You can take your pants off for me anytime you like. I'd like to show you my reaction.
    Have a great weekend.
    BJ.

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  23. Goes from fantasy to fetish when, you can't leave the gym unless you snag up some sweaty jock, boxer briefs or anykind of underwear that a beefy sweaty dude left on the gym floor to head for the showers, warning: know your surroundings and be very quick, grab them take them up to your locker get a quick sniff, and shove them in you gym bag, where at home, you can enjoy them mush longer, yes his man scent will still be on them..

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  24. I hope this doesn't become part of my permanent record, because I've never typed or spoken of it before. Not romantic. I woke one morning, instant throbbing headache, on my back, staring at the ceiling, thinking it was odd because I don't sleep on my back. For just an instant I considered that I might actually be dead. Looked left to check the time - two naked men between me and the clock, sound asleep. Looked back at the ceiling. Looked right - two more naked men, also asleep. Of the four, I recognized two. And my ass hurt.

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  25. Lions, Tigers and Bears, oh my, dude that is freaking HOT....

    Love to have 4 beefy hairy dudes in my bed....

    Toto, I don't think were in Kansas anymore...

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  26. That is so fucking Hot!

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