Thursday, June 9, 2011

Turning It Over


So I been chatting with a long time reader about the idea of an escort.  He thinks I should hire a dude, tell him what I've done, tell him what I want to do, tell him I'm chickenshit, and hire him to take charge of me and have 1 afternoon to do all the shit I always wanted to do but haven't.  So I agree the idea has merit, and one of my fantasies is being controlled by a guy. But when I think about it it's like ok what am I gonna do, start an interview process? Have them fill out a job application? But there is a fascination with turning the wheel over to someone and saying, "ok bro, you drive".  I've tried this with women.  Women (at least the ones I been with) aren't comfortable taking charge. With me anyways. And I think I want that. I'm pretty sure I want that. But it all kinda comes back to - am I ready to take it in the ass?  So to stick with the driving analogy, I'm in neutral.

27 comments:

  1. Scott,
    Just let him slide his dick between your legs. You will enjoy the pleasure of feeling that rod against your body. I bet that you will start to spread your legs to let him enter. Relax, you'll be lubed and he will wear protection. You can always stop it, but I suggest that you go for the pleasure of it all. Close your eyes and let him ride!

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  2. Just go to a gay bar and meet someone.

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  3. I like the escort idea. Fun way to explore and your leaving the driving to an expert. You can also quit anytime you want to.

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  4. Were the women who weren't comfortable taking charge with you being paid to do so? I kinda doubt it!!

    If you hire an alpha male type escort, I don't think he'll have any trouble (to use a driving analogy) putting you through your paces.

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  5. I had been with a guy for several years. I had topped him regularly and loved it. One night, I decided that I wanted to try and bottom. He had about 6.5 to 7 inches, cut. When he started to enter, he leaned forward and put his lips and tongue to my nipple. I never knew that there were so many nerves in a man's nipple. He was making his entry and I was climbing the walls of sensation. He moved slowly in and out. The feeling was frigging awesome!!! I don't know how long we went at it, but it was good.
    As he was working me, I was exercising my rod and we both came within seconds of one another.
    He, who was a top at one time, wanted to go back to being a bottom. He liked it that way, and we never did it again, but I sure as hell would like to.
    Scott, in your case, make sure you bring your own condoms, and lube. Vaseline does not go with latex.
    The ride was awesome.
    Enjoy.

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  6. get over it..just do it!

    don't spend so much time thinking about it -- look on the sites for some of the guys...email/call them....let them take control...

    you'll love it.

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  7. Scott, the "road" is wide open ahead of you, so just put the "clutch" in 4th gear and "floor it!"
    Artful1

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  8. You know you're going to do it. It's just a matter of when. You'll likely whine, maybe cry a bit, and most assuredly will complain and bitch to us about some aspect of the experience. However, before any time at all, you'll be craving it and that hunger won't be satisfied until you do it again... and again... and again.

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  9. I can tell you want it Scottie. Its time to line up the Alfa male escort and let drive you thru your paces.

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  10. Just remember if you really want to, even add a safety word, let him take control and only stop being in control if you say frugg'enhagg'en, you'll know what I mean if you've seen the movie. Just set the base rules, I always tell my guys, I won't cause blood, no piss, no shit. But I've almost gotten 4 fingers in past my knuckles before and the guy was in heaven. His nipples looked liked red skittles. And his neck and shoulders were actualy bruised from the hickies I gave him. Then on top of that I came 4 times and I got him to cum twice and kinda dribbled a 3rd one out. It all depends on how the base lines are set and how far you let the guy go. Lol the love what I do

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  11. You are a straight guy who is embarrassed to purchase a dildo. You are uncomfortable putting fingers up your own ass. You think hiring an escort is easy and the discussion with him is going to be a breeze. Get real.

    You are not prepared for this adventure. No way in hell you are ready to ride professional cock. You certainly are not ready to be taken for a ride of your lifetime because more likely you will be weeping in fetal position in the corner of some emtpy hotel room with a very light wallet.

    Here is what you do. Find a certified masseuse who will deliver a happy ending. Explain you have an interest in exploring prostate massage and a toy or two which you will supply. That gives you the option of deciding how big or how small you want to start learning about penetration.

    Do not consider dick penetration at all because you are not ready for that degree of commitment to gayville. Clearly.

    Get a good massage. Talk to your talent. Tell him what you want to explore and what you fear. It won't be the first time he's heard it and he can help you with your expectations.

    Relaxed from the great massage, if you want to learn more wrap up his finger and using your own lube of choice let him massage your anus and gently finger you until you understand what and where that finger is supposed to touch, press, stroke and probe. Once you understand that sensation, you will have a much better idea of why men like to get fucked and fuck.

    Assuming you are totally into it at that point and beyond the idea that it will be painful or difficult or cause you to want to pee because it will and you may, let him work your hole with that toy you brought. If you didn't buy with your eyes but instead bought with your brain, you should be perfectly capable of getting your hole worked and then anytime you want it you can do it on your own or with another man.

    You might like to suck dick and have your dick sucked but getting fucked for a married straight man is way over an edge you probably don't really want to explore.

    Any professional masseuse willing to let you spill will help you learn your boundaries if you are clear in your desires and expectations and he will also tell you everything you need to do to be prepared for his hands.

    Good Luck. No dick. Not yet!

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  12. By the way, if you are ever in LA on business, just head over to the Pleasure Chest on Santa Monica Blvd. This is the sort of place where everybody behind the counter is totally professional and interested in helping you find toys that will work for you, your interests and your skill level. They will not make it embarrassing. The guys are cute and the girls mostly lesbians who are very happy to help a guy get his groove on with the right equipment. This is a shop that happens to sell sex toys and videos and clothing from the tame to the downright fetish fancy. The staff will treat you well and get you what you need. The parking lot is easy and there is no backroom. It's a legit store for anyone to get what they need. It's the only one in LA worth your cash. Don't hesitate to ask the staff anything. They will answer without judgment as though you wanted nothing unusual.

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  13. So Scott, when you are ready to go play with your professional, this is the toy you want to take with you. It is not a dick therefore if the wife or the puppy ever drag it out of its hiding place well you will have to explain you like ass play but not dick play. It is thin so insertion is great beginner territory. It is long at almost twelve inches including the handle. You can play with both ends and they offer different sensations. If you get your man to push it deep, well you will have taken a rod almost twice as long as the average dick so that should remove a lot of the anxiety about size and what you can handle. This bad boy is flexible and will move with you. It's very comfortable and the ridges are a good way to feel it go in slow or fast. Slick toys are just not as much fun to play with and the ridges do give you a bit of the sensation of a cock head and its coronal ridge. This is a good learning toy to figure out how you clench and grip a cock or a toy going in and out. Remember a good bottom participates rather than just lying there for a good poke.

    You can order this thing anywhere and its usually always under 15 bucks making it one of the cheapest quality toys a drawer can have and a mans ass can play with.

    I have some huge toys. This little guy is still favorite in my toybox. Comes in black or ivory and I'd suggest you go black. If you like to play near a mirror the black is must more interesting to watch slide in a white ass. It also hides better in the drawer.

    Buy one. Your ass deserves this starter.

    http://www.tlavideo.com/raw-anal-twist/p-224676-4

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  14. Ya know Scott, I've thought about an escort a few times. I've got a buddy that's fucked me twice. Hurts like a mother fucker. He just jams his fat dick in my ass and goes at it. I always read how good it feels. Well, I want a professional who knows what he's doing. Someone I can ask questions and get the right answer. Someone who will "prime the pump" before he turns on the jackhammer. If you do get an escort take notes because I'm going to be asking a shit load of questions.
    Brkndndnl

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  15. You are a straight guy who is embarrassed to purchase a dildo. You are uncomfortable putting fingers up your own ass. You think hiring an escort is easy and the discussion with him is going to be a breeze. Get real.

    You are not prepared for this adventure. No way in hell you are ready to ride professional cock. You certainly are not ready to be taken for a ride of your lifetime because more likely you will be weeping in fetal position in the corner of some emtpy hotel room with a very light wallet.

    Here is what you do. Find a certified masseuse who will deliver a happy ending. Explain you have an interest in exploring prostate massage and a toy or two which you will supply. That gives you the option of deciding how big or how small you want to start learning about penetration.

    Do not consider dick penetration at all because you are not ready for that degree of commitment to gayville. Clearly.

    Get a good massage. Talk to your talent. Tell him what you want to explore and what you fear. It won't be the first time he's heard it and he can help you with your expectations.

    Relaxed from the great massage, if you want to learn more wrap up his finger and using your own lube of choice let him massage your anus and gently finger you until you understand what and where that finger is supposed to touch, press, stroke and probe. Once you understand that sensation, you will have a much better idea of why men like to get fucked and fuck.

    Assuming you are totally into it at that point and beyond the idea that it will be painful or difficult or cause you to want to pee because it will and you may, let him work your hole with that toy you brought. If you didn't buy with your eyes but instead bought with your brain, you should be perfectly capable of getting your hole worked and then anytime you want it you can do it on your own or with another man.

    You might like to suck dick and have your dick sucked but getting fucked for a married straight man is way over an edge you probably don't really want to explore.

    Any professional masseuse willing to let you spill will help you learn your boundaries if you are clear in your desires and expectations and he will also tell you everything you need to do to be prepared for his hands.

    Good Luck. No dick. Not yet!

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  16. i hired an escort a few years ago to learn to be a bottom....

    best thing I ever did...

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  17. Scott,
    Anonymous 2:37 makes a lot of sense. Think carefully about what he said.

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  18. I agree with Anonymous 2:37. I have never hired an escort but I just can't imagine that they would have as much... compassion? to go slow or do things right. I'm not saying you have to find a boyfriend, just someone you are not paying. He's on a schedule.

    The other option is to do the flip of what you described. Hire an escort and YOU be the dominant one. Make him suck your dick, make him eat your ass - and you fuck him. That will be less likely to freak you out afterwards. Then you can decide if you want to take the next step of letting yourself be dominated.

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  19. Scott
    As a married guy who is "str8", have u considered that engaging in receptive anal sex may be a game changer? What do u do if I really really like it? If its awful no big deal. But the reverse is a great big deal. Please don't take this the wrong way buy I don't thinly ur smart enough to be a goodcheater. Living a double life takes more attention than I think you can give it. Are u prepared for that?

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  20. Save your money go on Manhunt.net or BigMuscle.com and there are plenty of big studs who would be happy to take control and make your eyes roll back in your head.

    Benchpecs

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  21. Life is short so stop worrying. Try it now while you're young. You might enjoy it.

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  22. I want to say I love your website.  You and only you know you are ready.  I would get a professional to help you.  It's going to hurt a little at first but than it's absolutely magical.  Gay sex can make you come hard.  As far as the posted talked about cheating, if you jack off with someone or they jack you off or suck you.  It is cheating.  You have a website dedicated to naked man.  It is not naked women.  You no you want gay sex.  Go for it and be a tiger.  Get fucked and fuck.  Get your gatorade and water ready.  Were all proud of you.  

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  23. Ok, all you guys that agree with 2:37, you haven't been reading Scott's blog for very long.

    He has had a professional massage and experienced a happy ending.

    Hell, he's even been in bookstores and had some wild times.

    Getting fucked is the next item on his bucket list.

    He's ready for a fat cock up his ass. A pro would be more than willing to give his what he want's. Nice and slow or who know knows maybe he'll decided to take it hard and fast.

    live 7:05 say. Life is too short.

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  24. let the interviews begin...just be honest an upfront with the guys and they will give you enough slack so that you can make the decision.
    i did, and it was everything i wanted and more

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  25. to Anonymous at 6:52...
    It would appear that you don't understand that a masseuse who will give you a happy ending is an escort that is also a trained massage therapist. They might like to dress it up and call it something else but if they are going to help you spill seed, well, escort! Professional!

    What I am saying is if you are paying for a guys time and you need explanations later, for a fit guy to get a massage is not all that unique. Reasonable to assume it was a legit massage. For a married guy to rationalize his time with that guy and who may or may not want a dick in his ass, hire a hooker and you leave with nothing if you opt out. Hire a massage at least you leave with the kinks worked out.

    Now... you are assuming I have not been reading long enough to know what Scott has experienced. Not true. But one thing I do know is what he tells you he does and what he actually does will not always jive. You have never seen a picture of "Scott" or any of his activities and you have no way of knowing if any of this experience is real or simply vivid imagination based on a world wide web of available fiction and imagery.

    A man who wants to fuck and be fucked is not uncertain about that and they don't waste time finding out what it feels like to put things up there. They put things up there. I don't believe he is ready to be fucked by a man paid or otherwise because I do in fact read his blog and his words therein.

    Get with the program buddy.

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  26. as usual you pretty much got to the bottom line in the bottom line. don't drop the dime till you're ready to shift from neutral to drive. then put it in gear and pedal to the metal.
    cheers!

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  27. hey scott, eric here. long time. glad i checked again fro your blog.

    I like the masseur idea. first time that getting fucked for me didn't hurt was with masseur. after a really great massage he started rubbing a ton of oil on my anus and it felt incredible. when he asked if he could fuck me, I said sure, and he slid in no problem. And he had an enormous cock. I was just really relaxed and worked up before he tried anything. and that turns out to have been what was missing from the handful of previous times that had hurt so much.

    if you hire an escort, make sure you hire him for a few hours. you want to fuck when you are ready, not on a clock.

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