Monday, August 15, 2011

Reader Letter

Published with the permission of reader:
I’ve never had sex with a male but have always been “curious”.  Unfortunately my ship has likely sailed so your blog is very appealing to me. I’m moved to write after reading the letter from the young man who spoke of “friends with benefits”.  His attitude was disconcerting to me and likely to you as well (though I credit you for publishing it).  I’d like to share with you something that revalidates my faith in the young.  I’m likely on the long tooth end of your reader population.  I’m a 64 year old grandfather.  My daughter rents a cottage on a private lake for me each summer where she and I spend a pleasurable week.  Her son comes with us (she’s a single parent).  He’s 17 years old and a fine young man with a delightful girlfriend.  Last summer one evening “Charlie” told his mom he was going for a swim in the lake.  I was concerned because I was brought up never to swim alone, especially at night.  Yet my daughter acquiesced.  About 20 minutes later I was worried about “Charlie” so I went out to the lake.  After a few fearful moments I saw him swimming lazily near the middle of the lake.  I waited and watched him and a few minutes later he was swimming into shore. As he walked out of the water I saw that he was wearing nothing more than a sheepish smile.  He had no shame, no reservations, completely comfortable in his body. He walked past me, began to dry off, and told me not to worry about his swimming abilities but thanked me for always caring. I felt a swell of pride that in a very real way, I was responsible for creating this fine young man. This was a boy I diapered years ago.  As he dried I looked at his taught, smooth body.  He looked like a child.  But when he turned around the abundant thatch of hair around his groin symbolized that he was indeed a man.  It rekindled my faith in the younger generation. 

32 comments:

  1. that was a beautiful letter. thanks to the author and to you scott.
    cheers!

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  2. I think that when it comes down to it, the benefit that we are looking for comes with love. I believe that it is love that we are all looking for, and that just may be the main benefit.
    To the gentlemen who submitted the letter, for some reason, I was walking with you.

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  3. because he swam naked and was comfortable with his body he 'rekindled his faith in the younger generation'....that's such a bunch of bunk..

    maybe if the young man was making a difference in the world, then that would rekindle my faith..

    its more than just having a hot body that will change the world...

    just saying

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  4. Beautiful indeed. All sorts of lovely.
    -TGK

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  5. Sounds like Tadzio emerging from the sea in Thomas Mann's "Death in Venice" Beautiful stuff this.

    Benchpecs

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  6. That's either really cool, or really perverted. Not sure which.

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  7. Agree with you totally, Anon 8:10. Total rubbish!

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  8. IDK, I'm somehow left with an uneasy feeling. Like this coming of age, boy into man stuff is just way over romanticized. Kinda gives me the willies. Or maybe uneasy is a better word. Not cause of the family thing or the man/boy  thing but just the romaticization of time that while special was also fraught with pain and uncertainty. Did you all forget?

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  9. I liked the letter...then again, I am also an old man who was curious for a long time. Why would you guys be so annoyed that a man was inspired by a young, naked crotch? It might be extreme to have your faith rekindled by such a sight but we are allowed hyperbole.

    YOUR SHIP HAS NOT SAILED! I used to say that if the planets aligned themselves and I had an opportunity to play with a man, I did not know what I might do. They did, I did and found myself enthusiastic. I was almost 60 when that happened. I have enjoyed sex with men in their 20, 30, 40, and 50. That makes me sound like a slut but I don't think so. Then again, a few were one time experiences so I guess it depends on how you define slut!

    DP

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  10. Sex is great. Everyone (or almost everyone) loves it. Everyone (or almost everyone) agrees on that. But I don't hear str8 guys so over the top, giddy and ga ga over pussy unless their drunk. I know this is a porn site but a dick is a dick and making it into something heroic  strikes me as just a little silly.And trust me. I love mine every bit as much as the next dude.
    BTW, I'm not picking on the letter as much as the comments here and elsewhere..the I'm happy the guys is proud of his grandson..

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  11. While I am in my mid-30s, I have thought about the previous letter about the younger generation. As I see some of what is online and the openness today, I do understand where the previous writer is.

    I believe that many younger Americans are becoming more sexually open - more similar to the Europeans. I see many as open to experimentation and instant gratification. I think labels are becoming less of an issue.

    I believe this friends with benefits is just another way of suggesting sex is becoming more open, less dependent on any level of commitment, but also less likely to label. Instant gratification and instant pleasure is becoming king. Maybe this is just another sign of the younger and stereotypically more self-centered generation.

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  12. I get the whole idea with the older guy seeing the younger guy and coming of age and all of that. The thing that bugs me is that the younger guy is his grandson. Kind of weird.

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  13. Things that make us proud of our friends and loved ones can be grand or less grand. Appreciating one does not deny or refute another. Youth has it's benefits and one of them is to inspire older men with a vision of the future and remind us that memories of our fleeting youth needn't be shaded in grey.

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  14. Well said StevyD.
    @ 11:36 a.m.,
    i mean this w/ the greatest of respect, but brother you must not be well read. the great literature and art of this and every generation has been about beauty and the ideal of youth, with all its promise of a future. The author wasn't lusting over his grandson...he was inspired that indirectly from his loins, had sprung this fine young man with his entire life ahead of him. it reminded him of his own youth, which if angst ridden has long since been idealized. he was admiring the young man's innocence, his natural ease with his body. he was being nostalgic. it was lovely and i feel sorry that you didn't experience the letter as uplifting. i'm not that old (35) so i still remember the dewy eyed optimism of youth. i'm truly sorry you and others couldn't.
    cheers!

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  15. I am involved with a youth program that does not tempt me at all, no matter how many 6 ft 15 years olds or Italian 14 year olds with hair on their chest that there are. I might admire their development as you might admire a rosebud in anticipation of the fully developed beauty it is on its way to becoming. You do not pluck a bud before it has had a chance to fully mature. That would be sad and selfish. But you can silently smile and admire. - Breezyknees

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  16. I was married for 30 years before she died and I was never unfaithful to her. Do you think that I lost my appreciation for female beauty during that time? I was in a relationship with a man for two years and he was my main object of lust. Do you think I lost my appreciation for MALE beauty during that time? The author recognized that his grandson looked good. I did not see any incest/sex in that statement.
    I saw appreciation and, yes, nostalgia.

    Rugbysex,

    35? I did not know your age. You are still young but not at the age of stupidity. I have said that I think the ideal age is 35. Old enough to have some maturity but not so old to be a curmudgeon like me.

    Breezyknees,

    Glad to hear of your youth work. I have been around MANY young guys who I know are going to be HOT soon but I can admire them without being aroused!

    This is a porn site???????

    DP

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  17. @Breezyknees, and all the other people who empathise with Pervy Grandad and his sub-Hallmark letter -

    it's all very well to write about buds becoming blossoms, boys becoming young men, nostalgia, pride, and all it's attendant heartache... but all this talk of 'plucking' just makes me feel funny.

    In my pants.

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  18. He looked at his taught smooth body??? Dude thats so beyond creepy. He's your grandson.

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  19. to be honest, Scott, what's the freaking story about? did you have your reading glasses on?

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  20. Rugby,
     
    I think we get it. That's why coming of age is marked by all kinds of rituals in all kinds of cultures. And art and literature portray it. For both sexes. It's very nice and society as well as families celebrate it. I think most people here get that.
     
    It's just the sexualized and frankly sappy expression here that seems silly. But, as already mentioned, this is primarily about porn. Come to think of it, maybe that's why it struck so many of us as kink of creepy. The forum kinda leads the discussion to sex as opposed to misty eyed discussion of innocence and awakening. And I have a problem with expression of sex about minors from adults

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  21. I remember a situation when I was about 15 years old.  We were at the lake, enjoying a day of waterskiing with friends & family.  
    A few of us guys (cousins & friends) left the group to do our own thing in a nearby cove.  After a bunch of horseplay, it turned into skinnydipping at sunset.  I was the youngest of the group, and the rest of the guys enjoyed picking on me.  
    All of a sudden, my Dad pulled up in the boat and told us all to get in.  Everyone scrambled for their swimsuits, but mine was gone.  I ended up getting in the boat, bare-ass naked.  All the guys roared with laughter.  
    Dad just looked at me and shook his head.  He handed me a towel and told me not to worry about it.  He said I didnt have anything to be embarrassed about., saying I put the rest of them to shame.  It didn't come across as creepy at all, and gave me a bit of confidence.  
    (Dad was always cool like that!)

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  22. @3:26pm
    i hear ya. and like you i have a problem w/ anything that smacks of adult/minor sex. i'd just prefer to think that this was not about sex per se ipsum.

    DP,
    i don't feel so "ideal" today. LOL. i feel a little worn out. more surgery tomorrow. ugh! this time to repair the wear and tear of all the rugger years on my arms. you be sure to keep everyone in line while i'm gone (especially scott). i'll be back.
    cheers everyone!

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  23. Rugby,
     
    Best wishes for a successful surgery and an even more successful recovery. Be thinking of you....
    D

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  24. Hey Rugby,
    Just checked in to see the blog. Hope all is well with your surgery. If I may make a suggestion. Try and plan something after the surgery. Something that you would like to do for yourself. I always recommend treating yourself to a gift. Something that you see, or something that you like. Something legal! Reward yourself. I found that made everything easier for me. That's how I dealt with some stuff that came my way.
    Drew, would also be a nice visitor, shorts and all.
    How would you like most of the followers of this blog walking into your hospital room, carrying a pizza? All of the guys who recently responded with their pictures would be there too, as they are in the pictures.
    We will talk to you tomorrow.
    Good luck,
    bj.

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  25. Rugby,

    I meant to ask when you would be gone for surgery. Try to enjoy some pampering....if they still do that in the hospital. We look forward to hearing more from you. I don't think anybody here is in line but I will do my best! Is that line straight?

    DP

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  26. Hey rugger, I am guilty for not reading all of the posts, so dude good look on your surgery, and I hope you get alot of attention form the nurses (male)...lol....

    SJ

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  27. one last str8jock look see b4 the knife. lol.
    didn't mean to go looking for well wishes...but thanks everyone. i'll be fine. just not sure when i'll be back.
    bj...i'm usually a pretty private guy. so i know i'm going to regret sharing this the second i hit "post comment." the only "nice thing" i'll need is for "my guy," to walk into my room after surgery. he's a doc...how convenient! yeah...go figure...a lawyer and a doc. ha!
    cheers guys!
    p.s. while i'm not around...be sure to give scott shit for me. he's just really busy...he hasn't gone anywhere. he'll be back full steam before you know it. so will i. :)

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  28. ok guys the guy who sent me this letter in is a nice guy. he was kinda bummed about the letter from the guy who wrote about freinds w benefits and it was sorta a "ok not everyone's like that" kinda thing. i def did not get the impression from him he was oogling his freakin grandson

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  29. For 4.08p.m.
    I was thinking of you this morning and what you wrote. You have a cool Dad. It just goes to show the value of words and the effect they have on kids. The feeling of confidence, is good.
    Thanks,
    bj

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  30. Rugby,

    So is your last name Huxtable?

    DP

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  31. I thought the letter was beautiful. It didn't have anything to do with sex. The grandfather admired the beauty and strength of his grandson which made him proud to have in someway had a hand in the creation of him.

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  32. How does an "abundant thatch of hair" around the groin of your 17 year old grandson rekindle faith in the younger generation unless you are a creepy old man? The grandfather's comment is not only illogical, but it is creepy as well. I am not saying the old man is a creep, I don't him, but I am saying there are much less creepy and more sensible ways to express pride in off-spring.

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