Monday, August 22, 2011

Reader Letter

Published with the permission of reader:
Scott,
I wanted to leave this in the comment section of your blog but it was too long. I read your blog because I’ve always had a “thing” for straight men though I’ve never actually been with one.  Yesterday I responded to an ad from a guy traveling on business who was looking for a hotel room blow job from someone similar in age (he was 32), white, experienced, masculine, and drama free.  He made it very clear he was DISCRETE, which we all know means married (honestly I wish they would just SAY it).  We made arrangements and I went to his hotel.  I think he was a bit taken back when he saw me because of my age (I’m 23) but he let me in anyway. He didn’t say much or even offer me something to drink (isn’t that common courtesy?) so I wasn’t sure if he was nervous or just lacked personality.  Almost as soon as the door closed he said “OK…you ready?” (some line!).  He dropped his pants, hiked up his shirt and sat down on a couch.  I started to take off my clothes and he stopped me and told me I didn’t need to undress.  That confirmed my original “lack of personality” theory.  He was handsome in a rugged, almost mean kind of way and had a beautiful hairy body.  I dropped to my knees and gave him what he wanted.  He never said a word. I asked him if he liked his balls licked and he grunted.  I took that as a yes. As I made my way lower he went from the sitting position to the lounging position on the couch which gave me access to his balls.  I started moving down further to the taint and he started getting into it, bucking his hips and softly moaning.  What the hell I went down to his pucker with my tongue, partly because it was beautiful and partly just to see what he’d do.  Moments later I had this big hairy married man moaning with his legs pulled up in the air and his hands holding his knees up and apart.  At one point I stopped just to admire the scene and almost cummed in my pants at the sight.  I finished him up with a blow job that included him holding my head down while he shot his load in my mouth (back to the lack of personality issue).  I had barely swallowed when he got up put his shorts on and said thanks and stared walking to the door to open it. So as much fun as it was (and it WAS!) I don’t think I’ll rush back to married men because of the way he handled it.  I hope you have better manners.

39 comments:

  1. Speaking as a married (discrete) bi man...I would not be so self centered. I would have let you undress, and would have sucked you too. So not all married guys are so rude. However, I would not have been with a guy nearly 10 years younger than myself either.

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  2. Unforturnately, you met a 1st class A-hole who was only interested in his own satisfaction. Too bad you didn't have an enormous dildo to shove in his hot ass.

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  3. How rude. He sounds as if he would have been that way with anyone. I feel for his wife. If he can't let go and reciprocate with a stranger in a hotel, think how one sided he must be at home. Lifes to short to not enjoy it and everything it offers...like a 23 year old stripping for you and willing to have fun. Better luck next time, Scott, at finding someone willing to return the favor who has more personality. ~~CJ

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  4. I agree with these guys, not all married men are rude. I, myself, go out if my way to make sure the other guy enjoys himself.

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  5. I always make sure that the other guy has a good time too, especially if he's a 23 year old hottie! That guy would have been a selfish asshole, married or not.

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  6. I've been with several men -- married and single -- who wanted a strictly one-way sexual relationship. I have no problem with that if they let it be know ahead of time and they aren't a-holes about it.

    Regardless, this guy sounds like he deserved having an enormous dildo shoved up his ass -- except that he would probably have loved it!

    ~ GaySatyr

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  7. Don't take the actions of a single person and apply them to a class of people, its wrong no matter what side of the fence you are on.

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  8. Yeah... what an Asshole. At least he was a pretty Asshole. But I would treat you with respect, and let you have some fun as well.

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  9. Forgive me if I'm projecting my sensibilities as a woman to your situation but unless this guy was just afraid (which it doesn't sound like) he was a creep. I get the curiosity on your part but unless this is a very occasional thing for you, allowing yourself to be used can't be good for your self esteem in the long run.

    Frankly, this guy sounds like he was too cheap to pay someone and lacked the social skills to hookup with a woman and perhaps wanted something a man was more likely to offer. However he was seriously deficient in common courtesy. A paid companion is deserving of someone less selfish

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  10. Rugbysex est resurrexit!

    Got home yesterday. Surgery to correct old rugby injuries went very well. I want to express my deepest appreciation to everyone for their comments and emails of support. They meant a lot to me. Many, many thanks guys and gals!

    I can type but my arm movements are restricted for awhile. I’ll be good as new in about 3 weeks. In the meantime, I’m enjoying my daytime babysitter (nurse), a 20 something ex-MARINE who’s a student nurse. YIKES...thank you Jesus!!! If I wasn’t “off the market” I’d be all over that boy like a cheap suit. Ha!

    As for the str8 married dude’s letter...I don’t use CL ever , I seduce my boys. I’m nobody’s blowboy. I’m all too happy to suck cock, but I at least expect some manners. With some guys, it’s fear that explains that kind of behavior, but it doesn’t sound like this guy was scared...just an asshole. I think I would have cum on his clothes as a little souvenir to take w/ him. LOL.
    Cheers!

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  11. Rugby,
    I'm glad that the surgery is behind over and you are getting back into the swing of things.
    Also, I am happy that you are enjoying the ex-Marine that we all have sent your way. I assure you, it will make you, much, much better!!!! Make certain that you mention to him, that you have friends that want the very best of pleasures for you!!
    Have a good recovery.
    BJ.

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  12. Sometimes, you get a bad egg. It happens. You should stick with people your age. There are a lot of them out there. If it should be that you like older guys, then try silverdaddies.com. I'm sure that you would be a welcome site.
    If and when you meet someone in a hotel room, and you feel that this is not what YOU WANT, OR EXPECTED, turn around and leave. Even if you are being paid for your services. There is nothing more important than your safety and integrity.
    It's not easy to write off a negative sexual experience. It sticks with us like something we don't want, and wish that we didn't have.
    You are who you are, just make damn sure, that you make better choices. Again, if you feel this is not right, leave and leave quickly!
    Very best to you.
    Be safe and lots of hugs!
    bj.

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  13. I don't know...maybe something is wrong with me....but the whole encounter sounds hot to me. But then again, I love to service hot married daddy types and get off on them using my mouth/throat to satisfy their urges.

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  14. "At one point I stopped just to admire the scene and almost cummed in my pants at the sight."

    That is the exact point I would have NOT finished him off...rubbed one out on him and made a noisy exit. But that's me.

    Hope the writers next hetero married male sex encounter is more fun for him.

    Gotta feel for the married guys wife. My hope would be she has a very hot fuckbud on the side.

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  15. "I don't think I'll rush back to married men ..."

    Now what is wrong with that statement?

    Try "I don't think I'll rush back to black men"
    Try "I don't think I'll rush back to unemployed men"
    Try "I don't think I'll rush back to left-handed men"
    etc. etc.

    What the f*ck does "married" have to do with it?

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  16. There are about a hundred reasons why a gay man would stay away from a married man. How about unavailable for a relationsip, likely fundamentally dishonest....
    The real question is why WOULD anyone who is single involve themselves with a married man?

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  17. Is it just me or am I the only one who sees this differently?? First, the dude in the hotel was advertising that he wanted a bj. It doesn't sound like he was looking to get anyone naked, or have some kind of romantic encounter. It was a horny fucking dude, looking for head. It was clear to me what he wanted. It is also clear to me, this kid, answering the ad, did not understand that. Anonymous hotel sex is just that, anonymous. It isn't about exchanging names, small talk and drinks. It is about DISCRETE anonymous encounters between men. It isn't some fucking romance novel plot. If that dude in the hotel was looking for that, he probably would have gone to the hotel bar or advertised that. I totally disagree that this guy was an asshole. He was a horny guy looking for a cocksucker to suck him off. He wasn't looking for a date. That kid had the wrong expectations on that encounter and should try a legit dating site if he's looking for romance. What the fuck, aren't you guys men? Don't you know what you want or can't you read? The blog comments sound like a bunch of 12 year old girls who didn't get asked to the dance wrote them. Fuck that, I would have loved to have met up with this hairy married dude, ate his hairy ass and swallowed his batter, no questions, no chit chat and no expectations. Get real guys.

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  18. eh. Sounds pretty run-of-the-mill to me, even hot as BJ4STR8 said. Lack of manners? Not in the least! He answered the ad to give the guy a blow job (whether or not he is married is neither here nor there). So he shows up (perhaps too young for his taste, but hey, he was let in anyway) and so now he is expected to perform the task for which he volunteered: no frills, no dilly-dallying needed, a straight-forward NSA sex. What was the younger guy expecting? To be served tea and crumpets in fine china? A flurry of fanfare as he stripped? C'mon now. That younger guy was probably expecting to be ooogled and worshipped (the spoiled brat) but hey, that wasn't in the agenda. The older guy didn't sign up for that. He came in to serve, so serve dammit! The younger guy should be reprimanded for expecting too much when there are just soo many characters and personalities out there in hook-up land. So beware y'all. Take what you can and then leave. You got a big guy to moan: that's fine. Leave it at that. But don't be running to Scotty afterwards complaining because the guy didn't kiss your ass too. Ugh.

    jon

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  19. Having been with lots of "so called straight" men in my life. I would say this was pretty typical. He can't accept the fact that he is bi or gay so as soon as he cums... he is immediately disgusted and disappointed in himself for having done it. Although they can be fun while it is happening they aren't worth the disgust and disappointment you feel after having been with them!

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  20. I gotta add something about the str guys, haha. The married str that I have been with, I could pick them out as being bi or gay and married. There was only one guy that I was really surprised that he played both sides of the fence and he was absolutely awesome.
    I would like to know, how many of you fellas realized that after you met the str, that he, they are not so str? I think that they have characteristics that give them away.
    Thanks,
    bj.

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  21. Jon,
    Straight forward NSA sex does not mean this 23 year old volunteered to be an orofice. Most people show more courtesy to their waiter or gardener and those services are being paid for and are far less personal. I would love to see what your lawn looks like if you treat your gardener this way...
    This guy didn't ask to have his ass kissed just to be treated with respect. And I'm not surprised that a guy like this resorts to ads to procure sex. He'd never be able to score face to face. He's an asshole

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  22. I guess I agree with some of the guys above. If you are answering Craigs List ads, then you are part of the problem. Get your self image
    up off the floor and quit being scared of your
    own beauty and the consequences of chasing the
    obtainable instead of the un-obtainable. The
    world is way too full of people looking for cheap thrills and hoping that they will turn into princess brides....

    Dad

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  23. Jon,

    You are a bit harsh. a 23 yo still has a rosy outlook on the world and he only expected some common courtesy since he was NOT being paid to be a whore. I also resent your calling a 32 yo man old! Nine years difference is not that big. I have played with men 40 years younger than me (they were legal!)

    to the writer,

    The first experience may color your attitude but you need more experiences to make a conclusion. don't stop due to this. I whenever used CL, though, and I don;t know if this is typical boorish behavior of those who do! I agree with those who say you don't have to stay. Let the idiot suffer with blue balls if he cannot be civil to the man whose lips are enveloping his cock.

    DP

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  24. RUGBY!!!!!!!!!

    So good to see you back. Enjoy the nurse (or the fantasy therof) and be happy that you did not get a Rosaeanne Barr type for a nurse!

    DP

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  25. great comments guys. 11:22 p.m. - oh buddy...it would take me a novel to answer your question. it's foolish to generalize or stereotype people. i'll just say this...most of my life has been about sex as sport w/out the possibility of a relationship. i didn't want one. it was all about sex...and some male bonding. that's what made married men great FBs. we met each other's expectations.

    scott's somewhat fucked up. who isn't?! but if circumstances permitted...and they don't...i'd enjoy and value a FWB relationship w/ THAT married twerp. are you saying you wouldn't???!! ha!

    cheers!
    p.s. i'm not a size queen so i could overlook scott's "shortcomings." LMFAO.

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  26. DP,
    i'm not sure marineboy is a blessing. i'm happily off the market but i'm starting to feel like the lil kid in a candy store who isn't allowed to have a single piece of candy. ugh!
    i'm almost thinking it would be a lot easier if he was an ugly chick.
    cheers!

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  27. Rugby,
     
    I don't have vast experience with married men but I can tell you that in 2/2 "relationships" , one of which was a real relationship and the other was strictly a FWB arrangement, feelings went in directions no one intended. The first one by both parties and the second one the married man became more involved in the "relationship" than was good for either of us. It was decidedly uncomfortable and potentially devastating for him.
     
    A married man who is straying is likely not blissfully happy in his relationship and sex can stir up powerful emotions. Even you guys who are supposedly so good at "separating sex from emotions" can get surprised when you start "catching feelings".
     
    I've learned my lesson and never plan to put myself in that position again. It's just not worth the headache or potential heartache.

    D
     
     

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  28. i hear what you're saying D and agree. i have a slightly fucked up ethical standard when it comes to cheating in a relationship. frankly, i've been VERY surprised at how many men don't discover they have an interest in men till well after they're married. i started so very young. if a str8 married guy is looking for extra pussy just to get his jollies...that's one thing. that's cheating...plain and simple. it's a selfish betrayal. but a guy who discovers a same sex need after he's in a relationship? i apply a different, more sympathetic standard to that. sure, it is going outside the relationship and as such is a betrayal. if the partner found out, they'd be deeply hurt. but sexual identity is so inextricably linked to who we are as people. i can't judge someone who discovers something they didn't want nor ask for and struggles to come to terms with that. by compartmentalizing sex and feelings, i think they try to discover who they are while maintaining their committment the best they can. i can't fault them for that.

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  29. DP: I called him "older" not "old" and 32 is definitely "older" than 23. Just a way of identifying the gents in my prose dude.

    And 7:55am: are you crazy? If I hired a gardener I expect him to cut my grass. He cuts it, I pay him. But if a dude answers my ad for a booty call, and I'm about to cum, I am not above holding his head still so that he doesn't miss any of my juice. The 23yo princess called this "lack of personality." I say it's good guidance and direction.

    jon

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  30. C'Mon, Jon...if you were home when the gardeners cut the lawn wouldn't you exchange a pleasantry or two, wave when you see em? Wouldn't you offer them a soda or cold water when its hot?

    You will catch far more flies with honey........

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  31. Yeah Rugby, I think I may be tending to agree with you. Part of why I read this/these blogs is to develop my feelings about the whole subject. It's one thing if a guy doesn't know (and I still have some trouble believing a 30 year old had no idea). I wouldn't expect a guy to fess up in advance but a guy who knows he's bisexual going into marriage certainly should. 
     
    Once they know then honesty becomes a real issue for me. I've experienced the harm that can be caused by the whole double life/cheating thing and it can effect everyone; the spouse, the guy, the kids. And I often consider the person they cheat with as innocent collateral damage.Too often the cheater, in an attempt to rationalize their behavior,starts blaming the spouse for the problems; not sexy enough, not responsive enough, too involved with the kids....It can be a destructive dance 
     
    Believe me when I say that I can see shades of gray in my sometimes rigidly black and white world. I can be unflinching in my condemnation of people who lie and use other people selfishly. But I recognize the weakness in all of us and the need that sometimes can overtake our better judgment.
    D

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  32. 4:58PM: Wave when I see my gardener? Wave? Who does he think I am, the queen? My lawn is serious business dude. Just get down to cutting em grass.

    By the way, let us not overlook the very serious and egregious transgression of the 23yo royal highness here: false advertizing. The 32yo older guy wrote an ad for someone "close" to his age. So naturally he'd be taken aback when some 23yo (or probably younger-looking than that) shows up. Never throw a curve-ball like that to your trysts, dude, especially someone who is into "discreet."

    jon

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  33. Just because the guy was an a-hole doesn't mean that he was married and/or that he was in denial. I think that was implied a couple of times. The guy was just an a-hole. Anyone can be an a-hole.

    Also, marriage is not all about sex, and sex is not all about marriage. In fact, if a marriage is based solely on sex, it is bound to fail. Marriage is a completely artificial institution created around someone's set of values. Sexual arousal on the other hand is an involuntary physical and emotional response wired into humans (like other animals).

    I don't think that married guys who have an encounter with another guy are necessarily "cheating". Married people have sexual feelings that don't involve their marriage partner. If a couple of guys are friends and j.o. together once in a while, is that cheating? I don't think so. If a married guy gets aroused by another man or woman, is that cheating? I don't think so.

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  34. Jon, dude..please don't offer me a job, paid or volunteer.......And here I thought I had some bad bosses. Jesus!!!

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  35. 5:40PM: Don't worry about being offered anything cuz all open slots have been filled.

    jon

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  36. So what is the difference in this encounter than if the same married dude went to some adult bookstore or park bathroom and got a blow job through a glory hole? Nothing. Some guys are into that quick NSA sex and some aren't -- no one really knows if this guy is an asshole. I agree with the couple of guys here that think this sounded hot.

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  37. the guy was an asshole and it was hot. hahahaha!
    but what do i know...i'm just a dum rugger. oh, 5:31pm ...arousal is not cheating. no one said it was. lmfao.
    cheers!

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  38. Is not cheating connected to vows you take? Most marriage vows include "hold yourself only for her"

    arousal is not cheating but actions are!

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  39. I don't use CL but I do like reading the ads and looking at the pics. Generally they will say NSA, blow and go, no recipication. So I don't understand why the young guy was upset. He should have known from the begining what he was getting into. Yea sometimes things aren't what you were told and thats when you learn to turn around and walk out the door fast. In the world of Anon sex you have to rely on your brains and your feelings, if it doesn't feel right or something doesn't add up then get out quick. Also I don't know what world you live in but no one ever promised every sexual encounter was going to be great.

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