Monday, September 19, 2011

What's Crossing The Line?













I used to think it was getting fucked up the ass. But now I dunno.  I guess that's what's weird to me. Is it sharing affection with men? Is it kink? Is it just doing something you'd be uncomfortable wtih if you ran for office and it came out?  So like in some ways maybe I have crossed the line and didn't even fuckin know it. And where does freindship cross the line? Looking a little too long when you're changing with a buddy?  jacking off togheter but wondering what it would be like if more happened? When you talk to a buddy about shaving your balls is that laying the groundwork for man to man sex or is it just 2 dudes bsing? AND WHO THE FUCK MAKES THE RULES ANYWAYS CUZ I THINK WE NEED A SERIOUS TALK LOLOLOL!

10 comments:

  1. Scott,
    You both make the rules, or agreements. I say,if it is sane and pleases my partner, and we are both in agreement, then it is ok.
    I am not one who does threesome. I like one on one, which is more intimate. There is a BIG difference when it is desired sex with the person instead of getting off with a stranger and zipping up and leaving the premise. We all fantasize. If we didn't we would be brain dead.
    I hope that whoever reads this post of yours and see the pictures gives you some constructive advice.
    you can't undo what you have done. If you were to stop completely from man to man, in time, you would forget about that person(s). That is hit and run sex. I hope that you find some peace. When I go to bed with someone, I like to please them, that in turn, pleases me.
    I worry about you. You seem to be in a slump.How is everything at home? How is everything at work? How are you? are you still going to the gym? I'm not being nosy. Just trying to see how you are doing.
    bj.

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  2. That's me Scott, I make the fuckin rules! Let me see what I can I do, lol. But seriously bro all valid questions.

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  3. Scott,

    two posts in one day that are intelligent and emotion based. Thats so COOL! You pose some interesting questions for discussion. To me this is much more interesting than some lascivious lewd post on what is hot about the guy in the pics. Don't get me wrong. I am a slave to a HOT guy but i do have a life outside of that addiction. Of course each guy makes the rules. Yea Yea i know you are thinking this is a copout. What matters most is you live by integrity and honesty that allows you to sleep at night and not question your choices. Of course by now you realize that we are all individuals and that we all have different sexual choices. Sex and Love are two separate things. Sure it is always better to have sex with the one you love but that is not always the case. Imagine if your life span was only 50 years? Would you look at life differently? What did our ancestors think of the same issues? No matter how many centuries go by we as human beings are not changing much along the way. But i am sure we all face these questions. You stand on your own 2 feet. You are a man. Don't run behind a bush as a little girl afraid of what the neighbors think.

    Drew

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  4. I don't know if my post posted, but it was me, bj.

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  5. I would also like to talk to the person who makes these rules. I've got two married buds who I think might play with dudes if the situation is right but don't want to out myself to them if it's all in my head. Man, would I love the opportunity to play with each of them. Damn. If there was only a sure-fire way of knowing and not risking screwing things up friendship-wise!

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  6. Anon at 8:58,

    Friendships are WAY more important than orgasm.....and they last longer. It is a risk. Don't take it if you don't want to. Consider the price, though. it would DEFINITELY change your relationship, possible for the better but more likely not.

    DP

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  7. Scott,

    YOU draw the lines and YOU get to move them. There are some guys here who think that you have not crossed the line until you have fucked a guy, others who think it might be kissing, or BJ, or rimming, etc. YOU determine where the line is. I think it is where you are no longer comfortable doing something....then you know you have crossed a line. You might even get uncomfortable about writing here. If you talk to a buddy about shaving your balls, you are talking about grooming (very personal grooming but grooming nonetheless) not about sex. If he is eager to help you shave your balls, he might be sending a signal. Then again perhaps he is just into grooming. If you get a hard on while he is grooming you, you can say that this is not unexpected when another man is touching that body part. If he caresses you while grooming, he is sending a signal, especially if he LIKES the hard on. For what it is worth!

    DP

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  8. The question is what are the rules about what two guys can say and do together. The rules were internalized as you grew up. Your job now is to decide which rules are valid (i.e. feel right) to you and which aren't. Its just that individual--two gay guys will have very different ideas about what is acceptable to do in bed. So the line is whatever you feel comfortable with, but that doesn't mean that the guy you're interested in is comfortable with the same things. You just have to negotiate.

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  9. It's only kinky.. the first time. (Or if you for some reason need to explain it to your Mom)

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  10. Idk, i had a fuck buddy who's still a friend and it's hard to stop that and go to being regular friends, which we have for the most part. Sometimes i can tell he wants to fuck again, and I just have to tell him that we cant. But for the most part, it's a normal male friendship now. Much better actually I think that we're not trying to be freinds and fuck buddies.

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