Tuesday, January 3, 2012

When's It Too Private?

No idea if anyone still reads this but wtf. I heard some guys are still checking things out and somethings been on my mind recently. So you know me. Curious about guy sex. But I've experimented a little. And even a little more recently.  And I been pretty open with you about what I done. But at some point it's gotta be...idk...private right? I mean if I start fucking some dude left and right and things go good it's almost like I gotta keep my mouth shut out of respect right? Do gay guys go thru that? I mean like trying to figure out when kiss and tell becomes assholish?

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  1. Blogging about having sex with some random guy is okay as long as you don't provide any of his identifying details. It's completely anonymous.

    If you were having sex with some guy and started blabbing about the intimate details to his real-life friends and relations, that would not be okay.

    Similarly, if I were having sex with guy who was in a LTR with me (or a guy I hoped / expected would end up as a long term partner), blogging about the details, anonymously or not, would also NOT be okay.

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  2. If the person your messing around with also reads this blog, then I would say, keep it private. For me, the people in my life have no knowledge of my blog, and I put a lot of things on my blog but keep places and people without names. If someone I knew read my blog I would probably put it on self-destruct.

    I would say "kiss and tell" becomes assholish, when the kissee can read about themselves as you tell the world. That is unless they say it is okay, then their just a fame whore.

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  3. I can not believe It. I have checked every day, hoping you would post a comment. Happy new year

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  4. Hey Scott,

    This is the issue that most keeps me in the closet. The kiss and tell line of communication amongst the gay community that I know seems to always be running full force.

    I believe that it is more active in the gay community than for guys talking about their female conquests. I don't know if it is the same with women.

    Maybe I am wrong and it is not THE topic of conversation, but nothing seems to be sacred when it comes to who is hooking up with whom. I wish that people would keep their mouths shut. I don't know how to trust even the guy I want to be with. How do you even broach the subject in advance?

    Do I want to be on the down low? No, but I don't want to be in the headlines either. I just want to be. And be happy.

    The previous comments concerning blogging do not apply to my concerns. My concerns are the verbal conversations, amongst friends. Maybe I need new friends.

    Happy new year Bro. Glad you got the card. Thanks again for the ride. Miss you and your blog.

    Paul

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  6. I'm definitely not out. I read about Scott's expoits to learn. I love reading about what he does but certainly respect if he didn't share. But love when he does.

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  7. I would never kiss and tell in a way that my partner could be identified by others. That's not being a gentleman -- southern, str8, gay or otherwise. ~ GaySatyr

    P.S., Welcome back Scott! Hopy you had a wonderful hiatus and happy holiday season.

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  8. What a great way to start my new year Scott! Haven't even read the post but had to be sure to comment. I hope you are well Scott and continue to check in just to see if an appearance has been made.

    I miss checking in and reading Straight Jock Talking!

    Joe

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  9. Miss ya, but thanks for checking in with us. Follow your bliss.

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  10. I agree with anonymous @9:28...Thanks for the udpdate.
    BlkJack

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  11. I still checked back. I spent a platonic Xmas day with a straight married pal, whose family was traveling, and thought much about what you and others have written here over the years. It was very helpful to know what was going on in the background and to keep things in perspective this past week. It is differing views of the same reality that leads to knowlege. I have found the opinions expressed here to be helpful to me. I have found some to be challanging to my world view. Good all the way round.

    Within a small group of my sexually active friends and fuck buddies there is a different dynamic: If everyone you know has slept with everyone else you know, AND they all know that, then comparing notes is natural. It can lead to a better understanding if something confusing comes up. We are nurturing each other. We speak highly of each other, unless someone is being a real shithead for some reason. Comparing notes remains rare and sporadic. We continue to learn how to be better people and have better relations over time. All expect to talk casually about one another occasionally. We can be totally up front and matter of fact. (Can you see why some of the problems caused by staying in the closet were good for me to hear about? My world is different.)

    Otherwise, whether promised to a new parner explicitly or not, discretion is expected. You talk in the hypothetical, or disclose general pertinent details, but not names or identities. One of my pals goes over to fuck a guy in his conference room once a week, for a lunch date. Right up against the full floor-to-ceiling windows at times. Now that's fun! I don't know which office building or the name of the person, but I know all the juicy fun details. That kinda thing is a Win/Win.

    Your Stimulus Package (Seattle)

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  12. Hey bro, great to hear from you. of course we want to know all the sordid details. Now that things are becomming interesting is all the more reason to share. No, we don't want names, places etc, just the juicy bits. Is that too much to ask when you have all these fans drooling..?

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  13. Hey Scott. Yeah, I agree with what's been written. But isn't the point of this blog is to have a place where you can say what you need to say? You can do that without violating anyone's privacy. Make it about you, not the other guy.

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  14. I got the understanding by your last post, you weren't really interested in the sausage anymore? Is 2012 the year of the cock and "ass" for you, Soctt?

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  15. Scott, bro, my man! I am so glad you are back!! Missed you bad dude. God it's good to hear something from you.

    I think you should talk about whatever you want as long as you don't identify the guy.

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  16. Hey, Scott: Longtime reader/lurker here, glad to know you're still OK.

    When I was married, I had a long-term thing with another married guy. He was very reticent when it came to discussing previous affairs and the particulars. My curious side wanted to know more, but I respected the fact that he had boundaries that mattered to him. And now that we're no longer seeing each other, I'm glad to know that our secrets are safe with him.

    Fast-forward 10 years and I'm out and partnered. My gay friends and I still don't discuss our private lives, even stuff from the past. I guess it's a respect thing?

    So that's by way of saying: do what feels like The Right Thing to you. Much as we want to live vicariously through your stories, you may want to keep some intimate stuff to yourself. We'll love you just as much either way.

    Kevin

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  17. Scotty: Missed you! Glad to hear all is ok. Details of the deed, Yes! Names,places, etc No!

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  18. Yep still read it. You can share all the details with us, we won’t tell lol. Yes you are right there are time when kissing and telling is being “assholish” but for me this is when you start naming names. I talk about what I do with only the closest of friends, but I think it’s ok for you to tell us details because we share details with you in turn, but don’t name names, places etc.. Hope that makes sense.

    It’s so good to hear from you, and again we still read hoping for the day like today to hear from you.

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  19. "Happy New Year" to my older brother, (for you newbies, you would have to have followed Scott's blog)..

    Scott for most of us discretion is key, so have fun, but just be on the down and low about names, for you and maybe also that other dude...

    Now don't get me wrong we wanna hear about the act, not the name....

    SJ

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  20. Honestly, Scott, you could never be called an asshole. You have always been open with your readers/followers, and respectful of the individuals you've had sex with.

    We should all be so lucky to have a friend such as you.

    Ottawa Moggy

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  21. The issue raised with Anon 7:42, What is the chances of gossip or word of your prowess being spread through a group of gay guys, when you are a discrete married buy just looking to mess around and explore with other guys?

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  22. I'm pretty much in agreement with everyone else here.... would love to hear the details, just without names/places that would identify anyone. I still check your blog everyday, hoping for a posting to see how you're doing. Glad all is OK and would really like to hear about your latest escapades!

    CG (Carrot Guy)

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  23. In my experience gay men are bigger gossips then little old ladies. I'm sorry if that offends anyone, but that's what I've experienced. I mean, granted, I live in a small town in upstate NY and the gay community here is so small that chances are if you hook up with a guy, he's probably hooked up with the last guy you were with you. I feel it only becomes a problem to talk about it if the other person isn't out of the closet and/or has told you he's discreet.

    best regards from Alex in upstate ny. Glad to hear you're still around.

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  24. It's funny. I haven't been here since this blog 'ended' but it just popped into my head a couple minutes ago. What do I find? An update from 2 days before.

    I'm glad to hear from you Scott; knowing you're still out there and trying stuff.

    So you've done some private stuff that you think should remain private but you're kind of itching to talk about it. Hmmmm, I wonder what it was? I hope you can share more details.

    As for how gay guys handle these things, there are few secrets in gay culture. Gay men can't keep their mouths shut (pun intended). Gay men love to talk. You might keep it quiet for awhile but once you tell someone, it's going to get around.

    If it's private, keep it private. If he finds out it got out, you lose him as a friend and all the benefits.

    Of course, you can always leave out names, dates, and places and speak about it in general terms as long as nothing you say can be connected to the person in question.

    It was nice to hear from you Scott. While I'm not expecting daily updates, I hope to hear from you from time to time.

    Best of luck.

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  25. Heck, I gave many a "straight" dude, head, rimmmer, etc, etc, and I am my mouth freaking shut so tight (well when I am not doing the "deed") hell I want the straighties coming back, (and they do), for that reason, they are safe here, and always leave with a smile on their faces....

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  26. Hey Happy New Year and welcome back???? maybe more for 2012,I hope so.

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  27. Scott,
    You shared your experiences and adventures with us. There are a lot of curious guys who want to know what the other side is like, and you certainly helped by sharing. You don't have to name names. I will add, if you have found a steady, keep his name to yourself. Here, at your blog, it's like we are writing to a Mr. Dear Abby, who will start a statement with, wtf.
    I'm certain of one thing, every guy who reads your blog wanted to bed you! If you want, take a poll on that one.
    Happy New Year and be happy. We only go around once.

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  28. Always checked back once or twice a week! Glad to see a post. Hope there is more to come again.

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  29. Scott, good to see you're still alive and dicking, I mean kicking :-)

    Rick in L.A.

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  30. Scott, what would you like for your partner to say about you? That's how I would treat this. Welcome home.
    Artful1

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  31. AWESOME TO HEAR FROM YOU SCOTT!!!! :)
    And as long as you dont give identifying details it should be fine... unless they are your long term partner but i doubt that since you are married lmfao!

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  32. Happy New Year Scott.
    It's good to know you're having fun.
    Take care, and give us all an update from time to time.

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  33. As long as you don't mention names; no harm no foul!

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  34. We miss you Scott! The interweb isn't the same without you!

    Txchas

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  35. Hi Scott,
    Always checking in here from time to time if you are giving us some news about you. I think it is personnal, if you want to talk and say something, it is all at your discretion. If you want to talk about it, good but if you don't want to, it is good also. You are the only one person in charge of the situation. Happy New Year my friend and hoping to have more news from you. We all love you man.

    Yves

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  36. good to see your still around.......sounds like maybe there's feelings - not just all about the sex?

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  37. If this guy is straight, why are all the pictures of naked men?

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  38. Anon@04:44...because he knows his audience.
    Artful1

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  39. Anon @ 12:28pm 1/10... That's exactly what I was thinking. What happened to the Scott that denied EVER wanting a "relationship" with a dude?

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  40. Yup when you start to feel something special inside that when you don't want to be an asshole. One small step for Scott one giant step for maturity.

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  41. Scott,
    A lot of guys have turned to you with a questions, why not give us a try?

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  42. Scott,
    If you are celebrating something positive with someone that you have met, share it! A lot of guys are still looking for a relationship. You just may be able to say, Man! I found one, wasn't looking, but it found me.
    thanks.
    still looking.

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  43. I don't know how many read this blog anymore, but for those of you who discussed football. I thank you. I was never a fan until I started reading about the players here. I watched some great football last night. I intend to do it again today. Brady! Is absolutely awesome!
    I just finished watching some of the plays on my pc. It's worth checking the plays out.
    bj

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  44. I kinda thing, that this blog has come to an end. I won't be checking back.
    Scott, we all wish you the very best. Enjoy life, it comes but once.

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  45. Wow, what an ego on this guy! He's actually worried about talking too much about screwing around with guys out of "respect" for them.

    I think Scott became an asshole a long time ago when he started having sex with men while he's married to a woman.

    If he wants respect, how about being faithful to his wife & family?

    It's amazing how many of you guys have approved of his cheating.

    He's pathetic.

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  46. Have any of you "fans" ever taken a moment to consider this entire blog could be a fake and "Scott's" life if just the figment of someone's imagination?

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  47. hey anonymous 21 jan,
    look in the mirror if you want to see pathetic. and anonymous 22 jan,
    u don't have a clue what you're talking about. crawl back in your hole and stop spewing hate you contemptible, spineless piece of shit.
    cheers!

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  48. For 6.04 and 9.41
    There is something that I have learned this past couple of years. Maybe it's due to the internet, but there are a lot of guys who have been on one side of the line and can function just as well on the other side. The yearing for that sweetness doesn't go away. it's almost like the call of the wild. It has to be very difficult for a guy to keep a balance. You cross the line to satisfy a yearning, a big yearning. It doesn't go away. You can surpress it, but it is still there. I give Scott a lot of credit for having the courage to put his blog together. We should be grateful for his sharing. I'm certain that a lot of people, if not all who have followed his blog can identify with what he has do say. If he is not for real, then he deserves an Oscar.
    bj.

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  49. Hey rugbysex - everyone is entitled to their opinion and thoughts and deserve to be responded to in a respectful manner. So in that vein, I' d like to respectfully disagree with your comments above. I'd like to....but instead I'll just say, why don't you just go fuck yourself?

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  50. oh. excuse me. i didn't realize calling someone "pathetic" is respectful. i didn't realize questioning scott's authenticity is respectful when all he ever tried to do was honestly share his journey, laying himself open to criticism in an attempt to let other guys know they're not alone. trust me...scott is not a figment of anyone's imagination. he's a real, live, flesh and blood person...and a remarkable one at that! he's had my back and been there to support me in my darkest moments. he's an intelligent, considerate, witty guy and i'm proud to call him friend. hate...in all it's forms...doesn't deserve respect...it merits condemnation. i just wish i would have been more clever. unfortunately my temper got the best of me. as for fucking myself...i tried. would that i could.
    with respect...cheers asshole!

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  51. "hate...in all it's forms...doesn't deserve respect." you made my pint for me.

    So I respectfully thank you, dickwad.

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  52. Pint and point.....cheers!

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  53. oh come on...you can do better than that. this ain't no fun. i wasn't the one demanding respect...you were. i'm sure you get precious little of it in real life. as for hate, i reserve that for someone who's worthy of it. don't confuse anger w/ hate. so try again, before consuming any more "pints." rub one grey cell against another (if you can find one) and take another shot. i've had my say. c'est tout, c'est finis.
    cheers u pint sized pip squeak.

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  54. p.s. here's the thing i'll never understand about you peeps. if you think scott's pathetic or some imaginary character, why read his blog? why continue to follow it almost a month after his last post? it wouldn't be becuase you have no real lives and derive some sort of pseudo superiority by hurling your insults from the shadows of anonymity would it? naw...couldn't be that. LMFAO.

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    1. Hey dudes. I'm NOT directing the following at anyone in particular at all.

      Scott, wherever he is, would not want us being jerks to each other on here. We're all bros, ok? I have gotten to know most of you guys over the last several months and you're all buds to me. So let's be cool to each other, ok?

      Even if Scott isn't here, I still like to here what all of you guys are up to. So let's keep this going and be good to each other.

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  55. well said 26jan @ 3:34pm. i apologize. i get crazy when someone attacks a friend and scott has been a good friend to me. i haven't been chking str8jock since scott's last post and it was pure coincidence that i read the three comments that set me off. thanks for your comment.
    cheers!

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  56. Hey Rugby, I wasn't directing that at you, in fact nobody in particular. You're cool. I haven't known Scott as long as you, but I have known him for several months and I really miss him. But it's good to see some familiar guys like you putting a comment up once in a while. Hope all is well with you.

    Hang tough bro!

    W

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  57. I don't if you saw the tennis match yesterday. Nadal and Nokovich, certain I spelled that incorrectly. It was an awesome match. The funny thing is, I had to go to town shopping and I didn't want to miss the ending to it, so by mistake, I found the results on the internet. I went to town, knowing that it would still be on when I got back. it was on for a few hours or more. It was absolutely awesome. I honestly think that I witnessed a happening. The engergy of those two guys was something else. After an hour, I would have said, lets have a beer.
    Also, yesterday morning on direct t.v. on ch212 they played the superbowl games of the past to the present. I am a new fan to football. I never thought that I would watch so much football in one morning. What a game and what I have missed all of these years. It was Scott that got me turned on to football. I think that Scott could get me turned on to anything. What a nice thought.
    Have a good day, and fight nice. We only go through this, wtf world once.
    bj

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  58. SCOTT.

    You teasing SOB! You end the blog then come back without notice, hint that something 'private' happened and then don't tell us what!

    Don't leave us hanging, man! Give us something! Throw us a bone[r]!

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  59. Dear annon,
    I would prefer to see the boner!
    bj.

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  60. I'd just like to hear from Scott once in a while -- boner or no boner. ~ GaySatyr

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  61. I think that everyone should take a closer look at the picture that scott posted with this page. The guy has both arms up. Looks startled and he sure has some beautiful mushroom waiting for someone to enjoy. Anyone have any thoughts on the picture? Is that guy a pro or what? Maybe he's a soap star.

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  62. I think we definitely need to hear from Scott once in a while too. Where are you Scott?

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  63. I got a feeling that he isn't coming back. He is on to better tings and doesn't need us anymore.

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  64. He's back to his real life. This was a fantasy.

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  65. FOOTBALL!
    Patiots 27,
    Giants, 24.
    bj.
    Tomorrow, we will write those numbers in stone!

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