Thursday, May 17, 2012

Attitude


One thing my buddy’s and I all agree on – attitude attracts women.  A dude who approaches a woman like he knows she’s gonna say yes is WAY more likely to get the chick than some mousey guy who acts like he’s lucky to be in the same room with her. So I’m wondering – is it the same with guys? I have no idea cuz the only time I’m in a sexual situation with a guy I’ve already got my pants down and my hand on the back of his head lol. 

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  1. I sure do believe it is the same. Unless you happen to be a person who likes 'mousy' people, then it wouldn't be the case. But, I think that whether it is guy to gal or guy to guy [or gal to gal, for that matter] makes no difference. It is the kind of person we are attracted to that counts.
    I like a guy who is cocky enough to challenge me, but not so cocky as to come off as being cocky. ? confusing, but mostly true.

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    1. Oh yes it's the same for gay guys, attitude matters!

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  2. Oh I agree totally, it's the same no matter if your into chicks or dudes.

    Granted it's easier to get man on man sex, if your looking for a quick roll in the hay, (men ah just wired like that), but when we truly like someone, it is the same to ask someone out.

    I know I wish I had more "balls" when I really see a guy I like, to ask him out on a date, so yes I could use a little bit more confidence in that area.

    So yes we are all human beings and don't want our feeling hurt or be rejected. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose.

    Very good question Scott..

    SJ

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  3. attitude is EVERYTHING!
    never used CL, don't frequent gay bars. i've always seduced mostly guys who self-identify as str8 in str8 or mixed venues. to me, the seduction is almost as good as the sex. it helps to be self-assured physically. just the way you carry yourself says a lot. i'm a tall jock. that helps but isn't a necessary pre-requisite. so many gay guys are terrified to LOOK another guy in the eyes for fear of "getting caught." balderdash! it's all about the eyes and the WAY you look at another guy. LOOK him in the eyes! watch what he does w/ HIS eyes. all guys will avert a direct look. KEEP LOOKING w/ a "don't give a damn" confidence. he'll look at you again. NOW pay special attention. IF he looks away again, move on. but when he looks the 2nd time smile. not some silly goofy grin. a "hale fellow well met" smile. if he smiles back, you've got a chance.

    we communicate who we are to others in so many non-verbal ways. self-confidence is sexy. don't be timid. timid aint sexy.
    cheers!

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    1. p.s. let your attitude always be: "citius, altius, fortius" [faster, higher, stronger]

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    2. rugbysex.
      Thank u very much for the eye contact. I live in a small community and would not dare to approach a guy, for fear that all hell would break lose, but I have met a few with eye contact. Nothing happened when I met them, but I got the feeling that there was something between us, and it was cool. One guy is married with kids. I think that he is divorced and in his 30,s. The other, I think is finding himself but he keeps strong eye contact, too. I will follow your suggestion and let u know in the future. The one guy, in his 30's. I went to where he works today, mall type. He was leaving and I was talking to someone and he tapped me on the shoulder as he passed. I thought that was good, too. Thanks again. Let us know, how not to be timid. Thanks.

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    3. keep in mind my friend that the eye game is only the first step. don't go sticking your hand down someone's pants just because they look you in the eye or you might lose your 2 front teeth.
      Cheers!

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  4. Confidence= good, actually VERY good lol
    Arrogance = depends..nothing less attractive than arrogance without a good reason to be arrogant...gotta have something to be arrogant ABOUT
    And all of it needs to be balanced with wit and charm. Got those and u can't lose
    I think u win, Scott, whether its m/f or m/m ;)
    D

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    1. trust me baby...arrogance works! but ur right...ya gots to have something to be arrogant about. that's never been a problem. lmao! the perv's got wit and charm...he needs CONFIDENCE! he'd be best to avoid arrogance. hahahaha!

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  5. Confidence to get the guy/girl then attitude in the sack. A good attitude can compensate for a small dick on a guy; whereas, if you're a jerk you're just a jerk, regardless of dick size!

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    1. i know dudes have a thing about dick size..our beloved shithead sure does. i'd only proffer this ward...it's not the size or even the attitude. it's what you DO w/ ur dick. why is it so many guys (not you ward) think a big dick makes them a great lover? women do like a big one but not if the owner doesn't know how to use it. guys need to appreciate their dick is an instrument that can play chopsticks or a chopin nocturne. learn how to use it! cheers!

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    2. I'll take a nice guy, then a jerk with a (8,9,10) inch-er any day. Of course a nice cock is nice to look at, and we go by looks at first, but if the dude is an "asshole", I don't care how he knows how to use it, he's not "cuming" back...

      btw, the brain, is the biggest sex organ..

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    3. Rugger: I love your analogies, I've had no complaints, either they're telling me lies or I'm living in fantasy land.

      Anon: Yes, looks are important. My best bro is an awesome looking dude, model awesome, but is short in the stick department; yet, he's had his share of female (and male) admirers.)

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    4. Let's not forget the tongue. A talented tongue can make up for a short bat. But attitude is everything.

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    5. Oh, I had my talented tongue up a few assholes that belonged to "assholes", just let's say, then won't be tongued again!!

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  6. I would like to groom someone. Have any of you ever groomed another guy?

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    1. no, I have not, but there's a blog you can go to, pussy.com.

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  7. Where does everybody go on the weekend?

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    1. Over to the Beaver's and Wally's house to watch Ward give June her pearl necklace.

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    2. Ward has his wally on June's beaver!

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    3. Ward, I was just checking in, too. Beautiful day in the neighborhood. I guess that no one has ever groomed another guy. Must say, you do look good.

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    4. Ward,
      I think that a lot of us would like to play in your
      neighborhood!

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    5. You guys flatter me! From experience - getting groomed by another guy can be hawt! Don't tell June ;)

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  8. I do the eye thing first of course like rugby guy says, and talk to them as normal as possible. Then I comment on his dick but use word brother or bro, or bud, never honey . Although I do use handsome and tgat gets very good reactions.but the guy who wrote the staemrnt about the nice guy over jerk is right, unless its just fun and both know your clean of stds go for ot take that big dick , most if the time its jyst a front, unless he actually doesnt wanna fuck, then you should completely back away, cause lets be honest at thst point yoyr the,asshole and that is sexual harassment.

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